How do you feel about cheating WITH someone?

[TwisttheLeaf]

So I told him to call me when the relationship is actually over. I said I'd love to go out with him then. He didn't like that at all. Don't think I'll hear from him again lol.

Well, it's nicer than I would have said it. Which would have been somewhere along "Grow a set and break it of. Then call me." and walked away. *Shrug*

But here's the thing - I make it a rule never to go out with, sleep with, etc. a guy who I know is involved with someone else. No matter what kind of line he feeds me. First of all, I don't need the drama. But also, I can't help putting myself in the BF's place and thinking how I'd feel if someone cheated on me.

I think it's a very good and responsible personal rule, man. There's plenty of fish in the sea without dipping into other people's ponds.

My friends say I'm naive, everyone fools around.

Ok so..... if you know someone is planning a murder and you go along for the kill and watch everything that happens, even help hold the gun when he needs his hands free. Are you innocent?

The answer's no. It's different if you didn't KNOW he was with someone, and fucked him. But once you know, that changes things. Listen to your own conscience instead of your friends peer pressures.

I may have fucked a lot of married men and men in relationships back when I was single, but I never -knew- they were. To be honest, I didn't want to know back then. I wasn't looking for anything but a fuck. But even then, if they up and told me before we did the deed? I walked away.

I'm not buying it --- but I'd really like to know how others feel about this.

You're right not to buy it. Not everyone screws around. Not even close. Go with what feels right to YOU, man.