He refuses being bottom, but he says he likes only top guys....

[Chris86]

You said "I accidentally discovered..." but after your accidental discovery, you continued looking. That's when it becomes spying. The point here is not whether spying was justified, of course it was, but it brings mistrust into the relationship. The mistrust needs to be addressed and dealt with before it becomes a problem. I found myself in the same situation several years ago, and I told my lover about it, including the part about when it became spying; things were discussed and explained, and we got over it. The point is, if I hadn't brought it up, it would have festered. I suspect that's happening with you now.
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[SIZE="5"]You have definitely right. I am no longer able to trust the most, and then I spy. and this makes me feel bad. I do not like spy on the person I love, but now it's as if this was the 'only way to know it.[/SIZE]