matty7 Wrote:hi there, i think Bowyn Aerrow converd plenty of things with the amount if info u have shared so not sure what to add apart from giving support if i can - like to here more about your life and how things are goin though if u want to post more Yes, I think now that I've sort of broke the ice you will hear more from me . thanks for caring.
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Blue Wrote:I don't know what issues you feel you need or want to work on but, I've worked through a few bucket loads of them myself. I've got good ears, and can share my experiences if they come close to anything you want to talk about, or give my opinion on stuff. I'm no expert in issues, or much of anything except what works for me but I can try 
Thanks for the offer. You will be hearing from me.
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LateBloomer Wrote:Certainly no shortage of opinions around here.
But a little more background would be helpful.
What in the world have you been doing for 59 years? I understand there was a little experimentation earlier. You could start there...
...or somewhere else.
I can tell you that I haven't been a dead beat for all these years. It's been one hell of a fun ride so far. There shouldn't be any reason why this next leg on my trail can't be even more so. I am sure in time the whole story will find it's way out. You'll probably get tired of me running my mouth.
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TryingNewThing Wrote:Can you be more explicit about what exactly this "problem" is?
Thinking back I guess I have been kind of a whiner. I apologize for that, I am not saying that I am not going through changes. I am. But I was always taught growing up to toughen up. A real man stands up and fights his own battles. Well some times you got to step on the old ego ask for help. No man is an island unto himself. My problem, let me answer that with a question. Have you even woke up one morning having lived a fair amount of time. Well not so long in respect to life itself, but in man's year about midlife. Anyway you wake up that morning walk into the bath room look in the mirror and meet your true self. Thinking that you had know him all this time , but not. I ask you how would you react?
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Well Nikgee, That crystal ball of mine has a nasty crack in it, so most of the images are fuzzy and I have to interpret what I see 
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Not that fast, but if you had told me who I'd be today 20, 30 years ago, I'd have called it a nice pipe dream and nothing more. Now, I look back and, though I know the reason, I can barely imagine being the walking disaster I was back then.
Still, had I not been that person and gone through what created that person, I wouldn't be the man I am today and, just as importantly I wouldn't be able to understand or empathize with anyone else that might be close the where I used to be and, I wouldn't have even a clue as to which way to point anyone asking for help getting out of there.
Now I can reach back along that long road and stick a sing post here and there that might help someone else find the end of the road and, I can take a new road in my life with confidence that, wherever it goes, I want to go there and, I can get there.
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Bowyn Aerrow Wrote:Well Nikgee, That crystal ball of mine has a nasty crack in it, so most of the images are fuzzy and I have to interpret what I see
No you did good .You knew more about me than I was willing to admit to myself for a long time.Nothing wrong with a little elfin magic.
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Blue Wrote:Not that fast, but if you had told me who I'd be today 20, 30 years ago, I'd have called it a nice pipe dream and nothing more. Now, I look back and, though I know the reason, I can barely imagine being the walking disaster I was back then.
Still, had I not been that person and gone through what created that person, I wouldn't be the man I am today and, just as importantly I wouldn't be able to understand or empathize with anyone else that might be close the where I used to be and, I wouldn't have even a clue as to which way to point anyone asking for help getting out of there.
Now I can reach back along that long road and stick a sing post here and there that might help someone else find the end of the road and, I can take a new road in my life with confidence that, wherever it goes, I want to go there and, I can get there. Thanks Blue for your words. I have to honestly say when i came over here I didn't know if I would fit in or not. You all have shone me otherwise.If you want to make friends, you must prove yourself to be friendly.
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nikgee Wrote:Thinking back I guess I have been kind of a whiner. I apologize for that, I am not saying that I am not going through changes. I am. But I was always taught growing up to toughen up. A real man stands up and fights his own battles. Well some times you got to step on the old ego ask for help. No man is an island unto himself. My problem, let me answer that with a question. Have you even woke up one morning having lived a fair amount of time. Well not so long in respect to life itself, but in man's year about midlife. Anyway you wake up that morning walk into the bath room look in the mirror and meet your true self. Thinking that you had know him all this time , but not. I ask you how would you react?
oh yeah, I would feel pretty disgusted about myself--that I'd been living a bloody lie all along.
But I would also consider one thing, and that is whether it would truly be better if I pick the other path so to speak. Maybe the circumstances from the past did not allow it to happen and even if it did, would it really be better or worse? Who knows...it's always easier to look back and regret why you didn't do this or what you haven't done right, but you never really know what walking down the other path was gonna be like--until you walked it yourself.
Someone had mentioned earlier about something along the lines of "everything happened for a reason." and I would like to add to it that not only things happen for a reason, but sometimes you just can't help it--and even if you could, you can't be completely sure that it'll be a better choice. It's a futile effort to regret the past; you may not be the one to blame after all. The best we can do is accept it, learn from it and take what remaining time we have left, value it and move on.
GL  mile:
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One thing a very dear friend told me, oh about 20 years ago that stuck with me and, as simple as it is, it's the truth and, it works if you take it to heart.
No matter what decision you make, whether it is as simple as sitting down or standing up, or as complex and life altering as whom you marry, and even if you learn it's entirely wrong two seconds later, in the moment you made the decision, it was the best possible decision you could have made.
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