We have been talking a lot more. I'm not used to being so open and honest, having spent so much time in the closet and having what could be viewed as a "sham" marriage. I am becoming more dependent on him as a confidant, and it doesn't seem to bother him.
But I feel stupid for convincing him to call it off in the first place, now...
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would it be difficult to jus be friends for now? with it being so tumultuous and all. then take it from there
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So far so good, you both have a lot to learn about yourselves and each other. Age really means very little. Life experiences, individual maturity levels and, above all, trust mean so much more than age.
I know it is next to impossible to build that trust to the point that it allows both of you to share yourselves 100% but, that's where it needs to be for a relationship to work for the long haul. I know, rare, elusive, almost dream relationship and, not something those of us older an wiser (??) honestly expect, wish and hope for yeah, but the odds of it happening are pretty slim.
Work on getting to know and trust yourselves and each other, and see where it goes. Maybe good friends is it, maybe more but, don't rush, just let whatever builds do so and, don't make a mess again.
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