Gay community and penis size

[Undreamt]

a topic like this can be quite cathartic, its certainly a topic that a lot of people are insecure about.

I don't think, chokeing during foreplay is not a turn on, and I don't know many people that practice sword swallowing...

[Lalo]

All of the points made so far are good ones. But another thing that nobody has mentioned is that some guys are attracted to men with small penises. There is really a niche out there for everyone and every variation of body type. So if someone is hung up about any of your physical traits, then they just aren't the right guy for you. No biggie...just move on. Men are like buses- If you miss one, don't worry cuz another one will be along in a few minutes!

[Corona]

If you are a bottom, why would your penis size matter? besides, 5.5 is normal, this is average, we usually tend to see the size much smaller than it is, from the angle.

[Steve1860]

Personally, I don't want a penis that is too small (1" hard) or one that is too large (9+ hard). I am very oral, so I would prefer something that is comfortable in my mouth and a huge cock is just not comfortable. If I am receiving anal, I want enough, but not too much or too little. This is coming from basically a bottom. I am 6" hard. That, as has been mentioned earlier in studies to be within the "average". What has a great deal to do with is is how the person with the cock does with it and how. If you don't know how to please your partner with what you've got, it doesn't matter what size it is.

As far as a relationship...someone's penis size is far down the list as far as my attraction to him. If you are only looking for sex, it is a personal preference. I have seen adds for HUGE cocks and ads for small cocks. Everyone is different in what they have and what they want.

If a person is a "size queen" and has been f*cked so many times that they can't even hold in sh*t anymore it is so loose...they are going to want a huge cock or they won't even know it is there.

5.5" isn't small...it is average. It is nothing to be worried about of ashamed of. If you were 12" and came at me with that...I would say, "I don't know what you are planning to do with that, but it ain't going in me". Other guys would drool.

Hope that helps.

Take Care.

[quixote87]

I think that 5-6 inches is average its just that porn shows only the biggest to show "bigger is better"
From my experience if you care about penis size too much you're with a guy for the wrong reasons. I am that gay man that just loves a penis from average size to above average LoL
There's just misconceptions out there what average is, my fiance is black and I believe that he has a real nice piece to work with but not the giant monsters people assume all black men have LoL.

[takopako]

5.5 is a very average size for a fully developed penis and average is what i prefer. i dont really have any qualms about small penises, but large ones are scary. lol. luckily my fiance is just right in that spectrum.

[fjp999]

I wonder if anyone else has noticed the same thing I noticed... I have only had one experience with a very large cock. It was kind of a "dream" experience as the guy was very hot and then when we got down to business his cock was very large!

OMG... he was soooooo BORING! Like because he had a huge dick it meant he had a huge ego and meant he could just sit back and I had to do all the work!!! BORING!!!

I am glad that we remained just friends without benefits after that horrible experience. It was NOT worth it at all. Average and involved is much hotter in my experience!

[BobInTampa]

Well, i have to say, there were many great posts on this thread BUT i think alot of this really comes down to SELF ACCEPTANCE!

I know there are alot of younger gay folks on here, so please accept this in the spirit that it's offered..i'm a 50 year old gay man who's had alot of sex with alot of guys. I'm not saying this to brag - but the fact of the matter is that because i came out late in life and my first gay LTR was "open" - i/we played with alot of guys. I say this to as a preface to my comments that will follow..and one additional disclaimer - what i'm posting is based on MY experience...but i don't think it's off base.

Ok, so before i get to the "penis size" question, we have to address the question of "sexual roles: top, bottom, versitle (this includes verse/top and verse bottom). Personally, i'm a verse/top..meaning i top more than i bottom but that's because i'm in an LTR with a verse/bottom. It's something we talked about at the outset of our LTR but our "roles" in lovemaking aren't set in stone. Sometimes i tell my hubby during foreplay that i'd like to bottom or he'll say, i want to top you...etc.

Why is this important to this topic? Well, it seems that alot of guys who feel they have "less than average size dicks" feel they have to be bottom because they fear they can't "satisfy their partner. Well, the fact of the matter is, the distance between the sphinter and the prostate is the same for EVERY MAN - about 3". I think that as guys who have a 5"-6" penis take the role of bottom because they feel that bottoming is their sexually genetic disposition. And that's just not true. They feel their roll is locked in because they aren't hung...and it's just not true.

I write this because i think guys like this are really hurting themselves psychologically. That they are actually attempting to validate a self-impost stereotype of what they MUST be - and not truely a reflection of who they CAN be or ARE as a sexual partner.

Again, i'm not bragging, but i've probably had sex with 200 guys over the last 20 years. It sounds like alot, but it works out to just over 1 guy a month. That said, i've topped and bottomed with guys who had cocks ranging from 5" to 12" and you know what? The quality of the sex was based MORE on technique than their actual size! I've bottomed for guys with huge dicks that rocked my world, and also bottomed for guys with huge dicks who were really a disappointment.....same goes for the guys with 5"-6" cocks.

But you know the ONE thing the BEST lovers i've been with had in common? TECHNIQUE! The large and small guys knew EXACTLY what to do when topping to make my eyes roll in the back of my head.

Moral (or immoral ahahh) of the story? Focus on being a great lover first and foremost! Don't try to compensate for your endowment by just being a bottom (because you think you can't top due to your size) or, be great at oral, rimming or kissing in an attept to overcome for your self-imposed role definition.

The act of being sexually intimate (even a quickie) is about siezing the moment and doing the best you can with what youve got!

Oh, and you know what guys? The VAST majority of the guys i've been with who were 9" or more - were great bottoms! Almost every one of those guys would tell me (either before or after sex) that they were SOOO happy i was open to topping them becasue they were SOOOO tired of guys seeing their huge dick and ASSUMING that because they were hung they were a top! OR, that because tehy were so big that the other guy felt "inadequet" because they didn't "measure up' that he always had to top.

So, play safe, focus on being as good a lover as you can be, and wheter you've got 4" or 14" ...your partner will remember you for the quality of your technique and not soley the size of you cock.

[MisterTinkles]

I go more for personalities. Dont care how "big it is". I like guys who can understand are compatible with my personality, that usually makes them attractive to me.

I was seeing this one guy who had a dinky dicky. Im talking, it was the size of your thumb....hard!
I didnt care though. He was a decent guy and we had similar interests. Plus Im "all top" anyway....but he wanted to try and stick it in me, so I said "what the hell". I felt like I was being stabbed with a toothpick.

So, Id say if your a bottom, then size does matter to what makes you comfortable. Otherwise I couldnt care less. Ive had a few guys I have been with that didnt even have one that worked. But they were nice guys and I liked them.

[homohooter]

in a relationship i dont think I care about size. Now for a hook up if he's bottoming size has no influence. If hes toping I'd prefere 6in and above but really I've had smaller and still had a blast.