When I'm wrong, I'm very wrong.

[dfiant]

I really hope that you change your mind about that last part.

I doubt it will. BA is probably a lot like me in more ways than I care to admit, but there are people who are better off not persuing a relationship...not because they are BAD people, but because they are people that seem to so laid back and willing to accept things as they are that BAD things happen to them

I have been through a 13 year on again off again relationship with a drug addict who eventually draw a line too many. I swore that never again, but 2 relationships after that I got involved with 'broken' men and told myself 'A little problem with drugs is ok, it's something we can work on. I can help him and we can lived happily ever after.'

BUT there is very very rarely a happily ever after when there are drugs and broken people involved with people whose hearts are too good for the broken people's of this world.

BA is too good and too soft and is probably one of those people, like myself, who is better with his own company and a small circle of trustworthy friends then craving and searching for Mr Right.

What BA has said, I said 8 years ago. I'm not lonely, I'm not sad. I am living life, spoiling myself rotten with a new house and a new hobby of Aquariums and I am very very very content with everything the way it is.

Having said that, after all the Mr Wrongs, we both will know IF Mr Right comes our way and we won't fight it, but if that never happens then we will always have our contentment.

No such thing as dying lonely if you are content

[Kat]

I'm the gal pal in this so I guess I should add something here. We aren't sure what Blue was doing but he did a lot of damage and in hind sight I'm seeing some things in the time I've known him that fit the same pattern and finding out things I didn't know about him.

I don't want to say too much but for reasons Bowyn Aerrow knows I am doing what I can to help him and have somewhat come to dislike Blue. I think we both have a lot of mixed feelings about him now.

[dfiant]

I think we both have a lot of mixed feelings about him now.

Don't blame either of you. The pictures that you have drawn, what I have surmised from Blue's online personality, and from being involved with a speed freak myself, I couldn't blame either of you for keeping your distance to avoid being let down and hurt again.

I will say that forgiveness will do wonders for you, so I would encourage the both of you to forgive his behaviour. You don't ever have to tell Blue you forgave him it's just that if you find within yourselves that forgiveness, you will find the power to heal and move on.

Forgive, but never forget

[Rumble88]

Hey bowyn i am really sorry for you, i really really am. I hope you can feel better. But is there a slightest chance that maybe there is really somebody who he's running away from? Like.. i don't know, mafia? It might sound crazy but.. well don't ignore the odds. Maybe he thinks he's protecting you? God i watch a lot of movies o.O

[zeon]

I'm the gal pal in this so I guess I should add something here. We aren't sure what Blue was doing but he did a lot of damage and in hind sight I'm seeing some things in the time I've known him that fit the same pattern and finding out things I didn't know about him.

I don't want to say too much but for reasons Bowyn Aerrow knows I am doing what I can to help him and have somewhat come to dislike Blue. I think we both have a lot of mixed feelings about him now.

Hello Kat,
The problem with people who have a drug problem is they often hurt the ones who they are closest to. I would recommend that if he visits if he shows up have some questions you want to ask... Dont go mad or shout and scream and the same for you bowyn as when people do wrong they worry about things and worry about how to undo their wrong and whats this person and that person going to say. Think of some calm collective questions just to ask him and tell him its time now he sees someone about getting some help and receiving any form of treatment required and if he says no just say so your going to continue doing what the old saying says... When he asks what that is just quote this...

In life we always hurt the ones who mean the most to us.

Hopefully this will open his eyes a little and blue if out of random you are reading this listen to Aunty... Dont be worried about getting in touch dont be mad this thread is only created because people care about you with best interests at heart. It isnt designed to make ya look the villian or anything its just purely here as a place where two people who miss you want you to get in touch and want to help you but only you can let them help you and there comes a stage in life where we have to stop... Stop running stop doing the things we do and just grab ourselves and say enough is enough and by the sounds of it this is out of character for you so please mista look into ya heart and admit this is the first time people who are close to you are seeing you like this and get back in touch with them both calmly and collectively.. Where ever you are on this planet you can access this site so dont be worried about picking up ya phone and giving a call or something and return to them so the three of you can work as a team where any required support can be put in...

Kindest regards

Aunty Zeon
Gayspeak agony aunt

[Geminize]

Thanks, Kat. I'm wishing the best for you, Bowen, and Blue in this.

[Kat]

Thank all of you for the support we both need it and especially Bowyn Aerrow right now. How can anyone, my friend or not do this to another person? (don't answer that, I know the answers.) As for Blue I don't know if he even is the man I thought he was anymore I just know I'm glad he at least got Bowyn Aerrow and me talking and glad you are all here supporting us the best you can.

[zeon]

We do try our best and its times like this where the community comes together that you realise evehn though we dont know each other we work together as a family... I dont remember any fights ever taking place and as much support you and bowyn need you both got it from us all xx

[Rainbowmum]

Look who is still in California....

Blue deleted his account here.

Apparently, as far as I can tell he used speed on the way here, got all weirded out and is somewhere in northern California. Well according to his gal-pal who says she can track the truck via people net or something.

Look who was wrong (me) look who was very, very wrong (me)....

No need to comment, I'm not going to be of for a few days. Uncertain what to say or do...

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Hey bowyn i am really sorry for you, i really really am. I hope you can feel better. But is there a slightest chance that maybe there is really somebody who he's running away from? Like.. i don't know, mafia? It might sound crazy but.. well don't ignore the odds. Maybe he thinks he's protecting you? God i watch a lot of movies o.O

Interesting theory.

I cannot confirm nor deny that this is a possibility.

I take it Turkey has a lot of mafia? :tongue: