07-11-2013, 09:49 PM
I'm just curious about this. Plenty of women do it but none close to me do and it's a rare woman who will talk frankly about sex when there's a whiff of taboo and she might be judged for it (as many women she doesn't know well would)...I thought asking here might give me some insight into it.
I suspect the reasons very from person to person, and the way it looks to me is that some mean it like "sugar daddy" who takes care of everything and not even symbolically thought of as a real "daddy." Sorta like this song describes:
I suspect there may even be Jungian overtones in some cases (one theory is that people are romantically and/or sexually drawn toward people that the mind wishes to incorporate into itself, so someone who feels powerless may be drawn to a strong woman/mommy or strong man/daddy as they fill that lack within themselves, and ideally help nurture and bring it out in the person who needs it while in exchange the more childlike side that enjoys life the most without taking it too seriously comes out in the other).
Obviously, in at least a few cases, it's part of roleplaying something taboo (though it may be that it IS taboo that makes it exciting), and I recall that a popular (or so they said) vid for sale done by a lesbian porn company for lesbians had some daddy play, where one dressed up as a little girl and the other dressed up as a father. I trust I don't need to remind anyone that such fantasies for gay men have been featured recently at GS as well. And if this is the case for anyone you know, then do you know if that person literally thinks of their dad, or do they imagine being someone else with a different dad?
And finally, is it just a compliment? Plenty have fond memories of their dad and I could see them transferring that affection to another man and calling him daddy (and I'm recalling that there's a Daddy of the Day thread here as well)? That is, it's just an expression, not to be taken either literally or symbolically. In this case, can anyone elucidate the connotation of it for me?
I'm just curious. I believe most sex is in the mind and that most of it isn't something we can choose, so no judging here, I'm just trying to understand as I'm fascinated with how human minds work. Thanks!
Note that I put this in a forum where many should have the option to post anonymously. I won't be bothered if anyone sends me a private PM explaining it, too.
I suspect the reasons very from person to person, and the way it looks to me is that some mean it like "sugar daddy" who takes care of everything and not even symbolically thought of as a real "daddy." Sorta like this song describes:
I suspect there may even be Jungian overtones in some cases (one theory is that people are romantically and/or sexually drawn toward people that the mind wishes to incorporate into itself, so someone who feels powerless may be drawn to a strong woman/mommy or strong man/daddy as they fill that lack within themselves, and ideally help nurture and bring it out in the person who needs it while in exchange the more childlike side that enjoys life the most without taking it too seriously comes out in the other).
Obviously, in at least a few cases, it's part of roleplaying something taboo (though it may be that it IS taboo that makes it exciting), and I recall that a popular (or so they said) vid for sale done by a lesbian porn company for lesbians had some daddy play, where one dressed up as a little girl and the other dressed up as a father. I trust I don't need to remind anyone that such fantasies for gay men have been featured recently at GS as well. And if this is the case for anyone you know, then do you know if that person literally thinks of their dad, or do they imagine being someone else with a different dad?
And finally, is it just a compliment? Plenty have fond memories of their dad and I could see them transferring that affection to another man and calling him daddy (and I'm recalling that there's a Daddy of the Day thread here as well)? That is, it's just an expression, not to be taken either literally or symbolically. In this case, can anyone elucidate the connotation of it for me?
I'm just curious. I believe most sex is in the mind and that most of it isn't something we can choose, so no judging here, I'm just trying to understand as I'm fascinated with how human minds work. Thanks!
Note that I put this in a forum where many should have the option to post anonymously. I won't be bothered if anyone sends me a private PM explaining it, too.
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