Calling a lover "daddy"?

[Pix]

I'm just curious about this. Plenty of women do it but none close to me do and it's a rare woman who will talk frankly about sex when there's a whiff of taboo and she might be judged for it (as many women she doesn't know well would)...I thought asking here might give me some insight into it.

I suspect the reasons very from person to person, and the way it looks to me is that some mean it like "sugar daddy" who takes care of everything and not even symbolically thought of as a real "daddy." Sorta like this song describes:




I suspect there may even be Jungian overtones in some cases (one theory is that people are romantically and/or sexually drawn toward people that the mind wishes to incorporate into itself, so someone who feels powerless may be drawn to a strong woman/mommy or strong man/daddy as they fill that lack within themselves, and ideally help nurture and bring it out in the person who needs it while in exchange the more childlike side that enjoys life the most without taking it too seriously comes out in the other).

Obviously, in at least a few cases, it's part of roleplaying something taboo (though it may be that it IS taboo that makes it exciting), and I recall that a popular (or so they said) vid for sale done by a lesbian porn company for lesbians had some daddy play, where one dressed up as a little girl and the other dressed up as a father. I trust I don't need to remind anyone that such fantasies for gay men have been featured recently at GS as well. And if this is the case for anyone you know, then do you know if that person literally thinks of their dad, or do they imagine being someone else with a different dad?

And finally, is it just a compliment? Plenty have fond memories of their dad and I could see them transferring that affection to another man and calling him daddy (and I'm recalling that there's a Daddy of the Day thread here as well)? That is, it's just an expression, not to be taken either literally or symbolically. In this case, can anyone elucidate the connotation of it for me?

I'm just curious. I believe most sex is in the mind and that most of it isn't something we can choose, so no judging here, I'm just trying to understand as I'm fascinated with how human minds work. Thanks!

Note that I put this in a forum where many should have the option to post anonymously. I won't be bothered if anyone sends me a private PM explaining it, too.

[Sylph]

Many gay men, especially in the Black and or Latino Community call their partner, usually the more masculine one, Papi or just "Pa", as I suppose because of their persona it makes them more in charge or dominant, as Father's traditionally are.

Women also do it a lot, referring to men, even in play, as "Big Daddy", as this implies power or strength.

Me personally, I find it to be a cute nickname like Noah' s nickname for Wade in Noah' s Arc "Papo", which seems to also infer a similar feeling...like how I call Krupt Daddy ^o^

Perhaps there are other underlying reasons, but I just can't think of them lol...

I also really love this Song by my former lover Usher. Although he's talking more about taking care of her, though not just financially..

[MisterTinkles]

What was the question?????

I read "daddy" and my mind went off on a tangent....

[Sylph]

What was the question?????

I read "daddy" and my mind went off on a tangent....

Dirty Gurl you!

Read dat question again missus!

[Counselor]

I call stpdo2 "Daddy" when I talk to the kiddos...it's not weird.

[Dreamer]

Interesting post.

Sometimes, when I talk to close guy friends I'll call them "daddy", "papi", or "pa", I guess, in a lighthearted teasing kind of a way... nothing serious...

When in a relationship, I usually call my man by "daddy", or "papi"... it just fits in that scenario...idkw... I can't say it derives from a good or bad upbringing with my father... I don't think about him when I say it... far from it... I'd say it's a show of respect and admiration for my man when in a relationship. My man loves me, protects me, and takes care of me.... like a "father" should, I presume... if there's any correlation there...

Queen Odi might be right in that it could be cultural or environmental, but I never have pondered the origins of why, and how it came to be for myself..

Sometimes, I'll refer to my girlfriends as "mama", "mami", "ma".... they have vaginas... Idkw I say it to them...

[EvenOlderButWiser]

My partner calls me daddy.

Usually when he's talking to the cat, as in "go ask daddy to put some food in your bowl..."

ObW
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[archubbycub]

I don't have a problem with my partner calling me daddy, but that's mainly because I'm the older one. The problem I have is when he calls me "baby boy." I don't know why that's such a problem for me but it is. And what's worse is I really don't know how to approach him about it. He doesn't call me that very often but when he does it's just weird to me. And I think to myself that I should say something, but I never can come up with the words to say. Maybe because I don't know why it bothers me?

[Vigilias]

I suspect there may even be Jungian overtones in some cases (one theory is that people are romantically and/or sexually drawn toward people that the mind wishes to incorporate into itself, so someone who feels powerless may be drawn to a strong woman/mommy or strong man/daddy as they fill that lack within themselves, and ideally help nurture and bring it out in the person who needs it while in exchange the more childlike side that enjoys life the most without taking it too seriously comes out in the other)...

Jungian psychology so early in the day! I have trouble wrapping my head around Maslow!

[Nick9]

I believe no one does that in my country. Unless the man is really a father and the kids are around or are small (to not teach them to call him by his given name)