Straight porn bores me

[TonyAndonuts]

It just makes me wonder about the whole "nature vs nurture" argument. Some people think you can make a child gay based on how they're raised and what they're exposed to. Then the parents are all like, "Oh god, where did I go wrong!" But most people say that isn't true because one's sexuality is given to them at birth and how they're raised won't affect anything. But if our sexual preferences change and evolve, then wouldn't the nurture side of the argument be kind of true?

[Drew]

Genes and gene expression are two different things. One can be pre-disposed to certain forms of cancers, but may never develop them.

Most researchers believe there is a mixture of nature *and* nurture in terms of sexual orientation identity.

Sometimes it expresses itself earlier in life, and sometimes later.

What matters is is whether you accept yourself no matter how your sexuality expresses itself - if you realize you're gay later in life (which is not uncommon), learn about it and embrace it. You'll be happier that way.

[tavi]

that you are just bored of straight porn? sometimes I go and watch cake porn :333

I wondered what happened to my victoria sponge!

How the f*#! did you get over here and then back over there again so quickly.

Wtf did you do to my sponge!

[Eros]

^ What? o.o

This is confusing. If our sexuality is born into us, then how come some people don't realize what they are until later in life, or even change what they find attractive at a later age...?

You should know, you are the confused one, right?

[TonyAndonuts]

^Yes, the CONFUSED one. I just don't know if I'm bisexual and I'm just now discovering my gay side, or if I'm straight and for whatever reason am going through a gay porn phase....

[megumidesu]

In my case, it's kinda hard to tune out two guys going at it if I really am straight. I guess gay people could enjoy straight porn 50%, but for a straight guy to enjoy gay porn to any kind of percentage...what does that say?

that the type of porn a person watches has absolutely nothing to do with their own sexual orientation ?

i don't like any porn . that doesn't make me totally non-sexual.

[hirvi7]

You have as many social skills as anyone else. Sometimes the people around you that seem so confident are just as shy as you. Take a chance, the worst that can happen is they say no.

As for your questioning your sexuality, pay attention to your spontaneous responses. See who makes your head turn in the 3D real world, and that should give you a clue. Porn is weird in that you can lust after the people in it or instead identify with the people in it, or a little of both. What excites you in porn should only be part of your thought process.

[zuffenhausen]

For years i bought into this "no such thing as bi" bullshit and it confused the hell out of me, I was hooking up with both but still society tries to tell you that you are in denial and you're actually gay. I even half bought into it and thought maybe society is right, I even TRIED being fullblown gay, but then i'd be at a party and find myself trying to get in a girls pants.

Then i thought fuck trying to figure it out, fuck society, I'm just going to what I want, and after years i figured bisexuality MUST exist because its the only term that possibly fits me.
As for porn i believe if you watch gay porn then you are somewhat bi or gay, porn was the trigger for me and when I eventually tried it I knew that yes, there is something there. But your situation is a bit unique as you're a virgin, but if you can get turned on by naked men on screen, then there is SOMETHING there, you may not be gay but you might be bi. This notion that full blown straight guys can get turned on by gay porn I don't really buy.

[Memby]

This is confusing. If our sexuality is born into us, then how come some people don't realize what they are until later in life, or even change what they find attractive at a later age...?

Not wishing to sound flippant but... who cares? Just embrace yourself and your feelings - you'll be much happier for it, I guarantee.

[Woollyhats]

My boyfriend, who is bisexual, admitted to me that he's watched gay porn for a long time, considering himself "straight" all the while. Apparently, this is because a lot of "straight" individuals believe that finding gay sex scenes exciting is normal behavior for a heterosexual. Admittedly, I can't blame them, when I learned sexual education, I was taught that homosexual feelings towards friends were normal, and that most men would "mature into appreciating women".

This is where I sometimes conflict with others. This is because personally, I equate straight with "exclusively heteosexual". That is to say, viewing gay porn simply wouldn't excite said person. You aren't really fitting that.

So, you probably aren't 'straight', but maybe you'll end up considering yourself straight anyway. I don't really care, that part is up to you. Really, I believe you should be allowed to self define yourself as honestly as possible. And I'm sure you will, you seem to be on track to figuring yourself out.

Good luck.