I feel like I want to break up with my boyfriend because he has asthma.

[dfiant1]

I think your boyfriend deserves better, so you can do one of 2 things.

1) You can learn about the disease and help him manage it, while at the same time relieving your fear of Asthma.

2) Leave him so he can find a boyfriend that will be more supportive in managing his disease, and you can start smoking and wear what ever fragrance you desire.

[Jomar2k12]

It’s sad to read from you. It sad to know what your boyfriend is suffering with his illness and still he thinks that you are the right guy for him. I think you should look-up the meaning of the words “loving relationship”.

I hope he realized that he can do better without you, so you can also move on and you can make someone else miserable in your next “perfect” loving relationship.

Good Luck.

[BorneoJake]

Love isn't about the perfect someone, its about loving someone in a perfect way. I say this saying a lot, but its so true. Apparently smoking is more important to you than your boyfriend. This is the perfect opportunity to get closer to him, learn more about asthma, and learn ways to help and support him. I think your boyfriend needs soemone more loving and supportive, and you need someone you can smoke with.

[starbelly]

I don't quite understand this; either you're extremely self-centered, or you don't really care that much about this guy. In my daydreams about being with someone (single my whole life here), I can imagine sticking by them in the event of a physical or health battle. In fact, I can't imagine NOT being there for them. I've had a plethora of serious health issues (heart disease, cancer, and diabetes), and I'd be devastated if a significant other left me because of that. It's not his fault he has asthma. Give him a break.

[Anonymous]

The thing is also that I don't think he takes his asthma seriously himself. In the last time he's having attacks quite often and doesn't want to go to the doctor, treating himself with his inhaler only. I offered him to go together, he refuses and says it was nothing.

Yes, of course, I can and I will educate myself about asthma, but I don't think there's a big point to doing it, if he doesn't do anything about it himself.

[megumidesu]

well

if i was in a relationship with someone who wanted to break up with me because of a disease i couldn't control , then i would try and act like that disease wasn't a big deal and was "nothing" so as to make sure my girlfriend/boyfriend/whoever would reconsider leaving me.

it sounds like he's trying to convince you that his asthma isn't something that needs worrying about , to persuade you to stay with him.

[dfiant1]

Love isn't about the perfect someone, its about loving someone in a perfect way.

Beautiful, thank you for that.

[archubbycub]

Why not educate yourself on your boyfriends condition? When I found out my BF has Aspergers, I didn't know a whole lot about the condition. But my first reaction wasn't, "I can't be with him because I don't know anything about this." I started researching it and reading up on it. I talked to his mom and found out how to deal with his "awkward moments." If you love someone, and I mean truly love them, not just want to jump in bed with them, you learn how to handle their differences and conditions.

[East]

I don't know that you are a bad person, You might not have the necessary coping skills,

You definitely are not going to be the hero in the Hallmark movie of the week but there is something to be said for your honesty and knowing yourself. That is a tough thing to admit to yourself...and to the rest of the world.

However you decide to handle it...good luck to you!