12-28-2013, 06:34 PM
what lingers in my head is why are you both married...clearly neither of you is up for the task of commiting to each other...or at least, you thought you would be at first.
Which, quite frankly, given your age is actually nothing to be ashamed of..in my honest opinion you 2 got married way too young..now you're both wanting to experience other things.
Seems to me that she got a bit more involved than you in this marriage (not that you don't love her) from which it would stem this rejection to 3 ways and the open marriage choice..it's not
what you don't do is go behind her back...
you'll have to have a big pair on this subject and talk to her..be honest and say that you have these urges...do it, cause if you're already thinking about cheating you probably will and then the damage will be big...
talk to her and adress the issue before it gets out of hand...if it means getting to the extent of ending the marriage then you better have it happening now that you are both young..
you say we "one-siders" can't understand the bi-situation...I think there's nothing to understand here
remember that you are in a marriage, it's irrelevant if your desires are for other women or other men, you are supposed to control them and be faithful, and if you can't control your urges, given that 3 ways and open marriage are not options, then I guess you see what the obvious solution is..
Which, quite frankly, given your age is actually nothing to be ashamed of..in my honest opinion you 2 got married way too young..now you're both wanting to experience other things.
Seems to me that she got a bit more involved than you in this marriage (not that you don't love her) from which it would stem this rejection to 3 ways and the open marriage choice..it's not
what you don't do is go behind her back...
you'll have to have a big pair on this subject and talk to her..be honest and say that you have these urges...do it, cause if you're already thinking about cheating you probably will and then the damage will be big...
talk to her and adress the issue before it gets out of hand...if it means getting to the extent of ending the marriage then you better have it happening now that you are both young..
you say we "one-siders" can't understand the bi-situation...I think there's nothing to understand here
remember that you are in a marriage, it's irrelevant if your desires are for other women or other men, you are supposed to control them and be faithful, and if you can't control your urges, given that 3 ways and open marriage are not options, then I guess you see what the obvious solution is..