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[fjp999]

hello. thank you. i give mum the card. i was scared to go back int the room when i give it!she said it is ok and she still love me and not cross! she said she gesed it .and give me a hug! so i was very very very happy how it was ok. the bit bad thing was i said in the letter i wonted to go to gay place like club and get a boyfrind.but mum said she dident wont me to go to them and get a boyfrind. so i was abit sad becase i rely relym wonted to and be proply gay but not aloued.but i am very very happy she still loves me.mile: when she said you are not alloued i just said ok so it wasent a argument. so i can be gay but not going to them places.

Oh, My Best Friend. I am so happy to read how well you did.

It is just amazing how you have enabled yourself since first writing/joining this site. You really can do anything you want to! You have great power. Even if you are sometimes scared or nervous remember everyone gets scared or nervous about something... It is natural.

I too had happy tears when I read of how nice everything went and my matey also says the same... We are both very proud of you.

It might take some time before your mom understands how important it is for you to have a boyfriend... give her some time and I am sure that she will understand that if it is important to you then it is important to her also.

Best of luck being a proud gay member of your family!

If you can please tell us more details about the whole event... what you did first and how you felt as the event unfolded.

big love hugs,
frank

[joseph]

yes! i am very happy and proud i did it.for a joke i said mum i am still gay today and she said i nowmile: what it was happend i made the dinner and it was very nice then i said making some coffey and i give my mum the card and gone to do coffey. and i was to scared to go again but mum said come back.and her hugged me and said it was ok and her still love memile: and i said i love you aswelll mum!

[XRIMO]

Thats excellent Joseph. We are all extremely proud of you and happy that it went well.

Congratulations.

[marshlander]

... did you cry marshlander happy crying. ...

Yes it was happy crying, because I was very happy for you. I get a bit emotional in my old age

[joseph]

thank you everone!:biggrin: marshlander isent old! love from joseph xxx

[Shadow]

Babe that's excellent news !! I'm so glad to hear that it went well ... don't worry too much about the going out to clubs and things stage at this point - you've achieved a GREAT thing in coming out to your mum, so WELL DONE .

xx

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[princealbertofb]

Well done, Joseph, our friend....

You're right,Joseph! No, Marshlander is NOT old, but just a bit older than you and yes, he gets emotional about good news. I must say I wiped a happy tear too when I read through all these posts.

I remember how I cried after writing my letter to my mother and how it was all alright too. Because our mothers love us, come what may.

Coming out means a lot to us because our situation is so different, and because people just assume that anyone born a boy is naturally attracted to the fair sex (women). So it's not obvious for everybody else that boys can also be naturally attracted to other boys.

The good thing that comes from having told your mum, Joseph, is that now she can use that information, even if she secretly knew it before, to help you in your daily life. Hopefully she can joke with you too about you being 'still' gay today. lol... (I loved that joke, Joseph, haha, except that it's not a joke, it's the truth. Anyway, I understand what you meant by saying it was a joke; it's the way you said it :biggrin.

Now that your mum knows, she will consider, possibly, how necessary it would be for you to find someone to love and who loves you back, and how that other person will have to be male. There is no rush, though, and remember that your mum loves you so much that she does not want you to be hurt by nasty people; that comes first, then I'm sure she wants you to be happy, so she will probably hope that you find the right partner, just like she wants Hannah to have the right partner. You don't need to have a partner, however, to be properly gay, as all of us have told you here. Now that you have come out, and even before you came out, you were and are properly gay, and none of us doubted that at all .

You would probably benefit from joining a gay group, and maybe your mum could consider joining a group for parents of gay children. You might tell her that. Maybe, that way, she could express her concerns about having a gay son, and about what to do to make sure you have a responsible and nice life partner.

I hope she realises that you are getting lots of support from your friends on GS. She may not know this site, and may think that most gay sites are not very nice.

Does your mum use the Internet much? Does she monitor what sites you visit? Do your workers help you with your Internet surfing or monitor where you surf?

Lots of hugs, PA mile:

[BiPenny]

the fair sex (women). mile:

I OBJECT!!!

[sparky71]

Hope everything goes ok with youre mum i know how important a mans relationship with his mother really is and you obviously value her approval. I was really scared about telling my mum about my sexuality but it worked out in the end. I think mothers want to protect their sons from everything bad in the world and youres is probably worried about the dissaproval and predjudice that gay men encounter. Hope it goes well

[marshlander]

I OBJECT!!!

...said busty, raven-haired, blue-eyed beauty, BiPenny, the slim, 22 year old siren from just outside Londinium town.

Report by marshlander, a member of the unfair sex :eek:

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