How can you tell if a guy is expressing interest in you?
03-20-2014, 09:43 AM
I was at a music/movie store today with my brother and we were in there for about a half an hour. I saw the guy at the cash register stare at me when we came in but he didn't say anything and I didn't think anything of it.
Anyway, when I went to the register to pay for the movie and record I was buying, he saw my university ID in my wallet and asked me a couple of questions about the school, as it turned out he's a student there too. He asked me what I was studying there and told me he was a film major and I recommended a bunch of professors who I'd taken film classes with. He was a total cinephile like myself and was super smart and articulate— TOTALLY my type of guy, a nerd in the best way possible. We talked for between 5-10 minutes maybe and he kept continuing the conversation to the point that my brother actually left the store because he had been awkwardly standing there while myself and this guy continued chatting. Eventually, after my brother left, he introduced himself and put out his hand. He smiled pretty big and said maybe he'd see me around campus.
I thought nothing of this until I walked out of the store and my brother was like "So, did that guy just ask you for your phone number or what?" I'm inept when it comes to this stuff and I'm really bad with social cues and what constitutes being "hit on" or not, but I hadn't even considered that possibility because the conversation I had with him just flowed so naturally that I wasn't even thinking about anything else. I argued with my brother about it in the car and took the position that he was just being friendly, but he completely disagreed with me.
In retrospect, I think it was probably the longest single conversation that I've had with a cashier I think ever, and he does kind of strike my gaydar now that I think of it– but, like I said, I didn't notice anything at the time because of how natural and totally un-awkward our conversation was.
Basically, I'm just wanting an opinion on what should be looked out for in situations like this when they happen, and if 5-10 minutes of conversation in that setting is suspiciously long. Like I said, I'm bad with social cues. My brother apparently saw something that I may not have at the time, and I'm trying to be more conscious of these things just on the slight off chance that I cross paths with an upstanding eligible bachelor. Haha.
Anyway, when I went to the register to pay for the movie and record I was buying, he saw my university ID in my wallet and asked me a couple of questions about the school, as it turned out he's a student there too. He asked me what I was studying there and told me he was a film major and I recommended a bunch of professors who I'd taken film classes with. He was a total cinephile like myself and was super smart and articulate— TOTALLY my type of guy, a nerd in the best way possible. We talked for between 5-10 minutes maybe and he kept continuing the conversation to the point that my brother actually left the store because he had been awkwardly standing there while myself and this guy continued chatting. Eventually, after my brother left, he introduced himself and put out his hand. He smiled pretty big and said maybe he'd see me around campus.
I thought nothing of this until I walked out of the store and my brother was like "So, did that guy just ask you for your phone number or what?" I'm inept when it comes to this stuff and I'm really bad with social cues and what constitutes being "hit on" or not, but I hadn't even considered that possibility because the conversation I had with him just flowed so naturally that I wasn't even thinking about anything else. I argued with my brother about it in the car and took the position that he was just being friendly, but he completely disagreed with me.
In retrospect, I think it was probably the longest single conversation that I've had with a cashier I think ever, and he does kind of strike my gaydar now that I think of it– but, like I said, I didn't notice anything at the time because of how natural and totally un-awkward our conversation was.
Basically, I'm just wanting an opinion on what should be looked out for in situations like this when they happen, and if 5-10 minutes of conversation in that setting is suspiciously long. Like I said, I'm bad with social cues. My brother apparently saw something that I may not have at the time, and I'm trying to be more conscious of these things just on the slight off chance that I cross paths with an upstanding eligible bachelor. Haha.
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