04-23-2014, 11:29 AM
So I decided to come out to my mother today (well, sort of come out).
I'm married but separated (my wife can no longer go on pretending to be my wife when that ship has clearly sailed; we are best friends though and are getting pedicures together tomorrow, lol). She told her family that we split up but didn't tell them about me being gay. I thought it would be best to tell my mother so I didn't have to continue living with the burden of holding this in. I told her that my wife and I were splitting up because there is some stuff in our past that changed how we both see the marriage (I was unfaithful in the past and my mom already knew about that). I explained to her that part of my infidelity was being intimate with other men. There was a brief pause and then she said, "you'd better not tell your dad." She later asked me if all this meant that I would be going for guys now. I explained that I am still in the process of discovering who I am but I definitely wouldn't rule it out. She went on to remind me that homosexuality is an especially bad sin. I more or less expected that sort of reaction but when I told my wife everything my mom said, she was infuriated! She could not believe that my mom said nothing about loving me no matter what or anything like that.
Next I called my brother and told him the same thing and his response irritated me a bit. He told me that nothing I do surprises him anymore given my past. But he did say that he is still my brother and nothing will change that. So I felt good at the end of the conversation.
Like I said earlier, I "sort of" came out today...I didn't come out and say "I'M GAY!" Instead, I just stuck a leg out of the door and shook it around.
I can't wait to see how quickly this gets passed around throughout my extended family and I start getting facebook messages! I thought about telling my mom that she destined me to be gay since she named me Shannon but thought that might be a little mean.
Happy April 22nd everyone!
I'm married but separated (my wife can no longer go on pretending to be my wife when that ship has clearly sailed; we are best friends though and are getting pedicures together tomorrow, lol). She told her family that we split up but didn't tell them about me being gay. I thought it would be best to tell my mother so I didn't have to continue living with the burden of holding this in. I told her that my wife and I were splitting up because there is some stuff in our past that changed how we both see the marriage (I was unfaithful in the past and my mom already knew about that). I explained to her that part of my infidelity was being intimate with other men. There was a brief pause and then she said, "you'd better not tell your dad." She later asked me if all this meant that I would be going for guys now. I explained that I am still in the process of discovering who I am but I definitely wouldn't rule it out. She went on to remind me that homosexuality is an especially bad sin. I more or less expected that sort of reaction but when I told my wife everything my mom said, she was infuriated! She could not believe that my mom said nothing about loving me no matter what or anything like that.
Next I called my brother and told him the same thing and his response irritated me a bit. He told me that nothing I do surprises him anymore given my past. But he did say that he is still my brother and nothing will change that. So I felt good at the end of the conversation.
Like I said earlier, I "sort of" came out today...I didn't come out and say "I'M GAY!" Instead, I just stuck a leg out of the door and shook it around.
I can't wait to see how quickly this gets passed around throughout my extended family and I start getting facebook messages! I thought about telling my mom that she destined me to be gay since she named me Shannon but thought that might be a little mean.
Happy April 22nd everyone!