height difference in relationships

[kidchameleon]

Personally, I would like to end up with someone who's taller than me... but I wouldn't say my dating choices are really ever influenced by it, it's more just an afterthought - if a guy happens to be taller than me, he gets a tick in a box in my head.... and that's pretty much it.

Considering most of the guys I've dated have been shorter than me, to varying degrees, it could simply be based on my desire for something a bit different. If not, then I can't really explain it... so I think I'll stick with that theory for now. Makes it feel a little less arbitrary. xD

[CellarDweller]

I've been with guys who are taller than me, and shorter than me......either works.

[LEANDRONJ]

Being 6'1" (185 cm) I prefer guys close to my height or taller. My last Ex was 5'10 (177.8 cm) and that set the dynamics of our relationship. I ended up being the dominant, and he the submissive. In previous relationships with men taller than me, they were the dominant and I was the submissive.

It has been my experience/observation that typically the taller partner ends up being the more dominant one, and the shorter one more submissive. I have seen a few rarer cases of couples that upset this status quo. However everyone pretty much assumed that the taller one was the dominate one and the shorter one followed submissively.

This is evolution and biology at work, considering the bi-gendered species is composed of larger males and smaller females and that their offspring are extremely height impaired which leads to adults tending to be more protective of the offspring there is a real relationship in the minds of humans behind who does what for whom based on size of the individual.

If you are a dominating top, you may find that taller more submissive guys won't want to be around you to that balance out the dominating top thing. Unfortunately humans link bad stuff to short people who dare to be strong, domineering - like Napoleon was accused of being short and having 'short man issues' (He wasn't that short, but see how history and people have linked his behaviors to short man envy). So a shorter dom guy usually gets hit with some pretty ugly bias.

If you more of a passive/sub type then finding a tall dominating top will most likely work out real well, the height think will kick in and biology will take over.

Observation of humans in their natural habitats, I have noted that couples who are closer to height tend to be more versatile in their relationship (in and out of bed). those with marked height differences tend to have more of a dom/sub sort of thing going on.

Again not always, there are those couples who like to do their own things.


Ultimately you will find a guy who wants what you have to offer.

You are not looking for a NBA player (in excess of 7 feet tall (213+ cm) so your chances are far far greater that yes you will meet a taller guy (not excessively taller) who will find you all adorable and cute and all of that horrific lovey dovey stuff.

:tongue:

I can attest to that claim, because its being true in my experience! all the guys I've had being in a versatile relationship with, coincidentally shared the same height as mine!

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Aint that the truth! They're easier to pick up and haul off caveman style too!



That helps explains my "herding instinct" around shorter and younger people. For some reason I always feel like I have to protect smaller adults and kids.

Yeah... I have found it interesting that the taller a guy is the more like he confesses to being more protective of the wee folk (children). Clearly the size difference links to something deeper in our evolution.

[meridannight]

doesn't matter. i'm a short guy (169) and i've been with guys taller than 185. i always think it might be a little weird, from purely a logistical perspective, but i've been with quite a lot of tall guys, and from experience it's not that weird at all. the worst inconvenience is that i can't comfortably reach a guy that tall to kiss him when standing up, but i've worked around that problem.

and, for whatever weird reason this keeps happening, i tend to end up with really tall guys. i have no idea why the hell this is. i had this childhood buddy, older than me, we were just friends, he wasn't gay, but when i was in high school he was 190, if not more, and him and me always got along great. i barely noticed the height difference. then there was one other guy from not so distant past, again 190 or so; and one guy i'm currently seeing is 187 or some figure around there. it puzzles me that i keep ending up with guys that tall, but it's never been an issue in itself.

[Virge]

There's a 10 inch (25cm) height difference between me and Jay. Guys don't think about the real physical problems that can come from it. Like the urge to hug and talk looking in each others' eyes can eventually lead to serious neck muscle spasms for the shorter guy and slouching shoulders for the taller guy. Jay had a home traction kit that mounts on the top of a door to pull his neck straight. When I get pains in my upper back I see the chiropractor. We've found ways to keep these problems from being daly issues now. Like me sitting him on the counter to talk to him up close or snuggling up on the couch. We enjoy slow dancing but when we do in public there's always going to be some drunk to make a tacky remark about the height difference = top/bottom which always pizzes me off.

There are advantages to the height differences. hahahhaha! Sex standing in the shower is more fun than doing it in bed. It gives me excuses to pick him up a lot for snogging. If he pisses me off I can pick him up by the back of his belt and swing him around and throw him. hahahhaha!

[meridannight]

Guys don't think about the real physical problems that can come from it. Like the urge to hug and talk looking in each others' eyes can eventually lead to serious neck muscle spasms for the shorter guy and slouching shoulders for the taller guy.

We've found ways to keep these problems from being daly issues now. Like me sitting him on the counter to talk to him up close or snuggling up on the couch.

eh, i just crawl into my guy's lap if i need to hug or kiss or just be with him like that. and it's not uncommon that he leans back into me between my legs and i hold him from behind. i've never had neck problems. and a lot of the interaction happens sitting down, in the bedroom, living room, dining, or in the car, at that time we're eye to eye.

If he pisses me off I can pick him up by the back of his belt and swing him around and throw him.

lol whatt?

[SaintTab]

Height doesn't matter to me.
Length however.....

[darren23a]

I much prefer shorter guys. I'm just shy of 6' and my longest relationship was with a guy who is 5'3". I'm not put off by taller guys but as somebody who prefers to be the big spoon I do find it difficult to wrap myself around somebody taller than me. I've never found any other issues with height difference though. I will admit that I did used to use my height to my advantage at times, if I bought food I knew my ex wouldn't approve of me having I would put the item at the back of the top shelf of the kitchen cupboard because he was too short to be able to see it, haha!

The problem I personally have is that a lot of shorter men, in my experience, seem to be looking for very masculine, muscular, rugged types of men. I'm not that. Whilst i'm a top and prefer to be the more dominant one in a sexual relationship, my personality is quite shy and introverted and I look quite young, slim and passive so I usually attract tall, dominant men.

[DreamMaker]

Darren, I like when men break norms. So a shy top is actually much more interesting and attractive to me than the typical masc.
I have no preference, but because tall guys is very exotic to me, it's nice. I'm 5'5" and I like it