Unsure if we want a threesome?

[Borg69]

Maybe you're an exhibitionist and just want to be watched?

[ChadCoxRox]

yeah i know its just hard, wana spice things up we have a great time but i dont get super turned on unless we watch porn or discuss other guys too or even snapchat some guys.

That's not about him and even less about "ya'll".
It's also very common and nothing to be ashamed of, but rather something to be very proactive about, especially in terms of attitude and beliefs, if protecting your relationship is a value near the top of your list.
The first step is talking about it...sorting it out...over time. The next step is making sure he is included openly in that discussion at some point.
Been there...done that.

[P1993]

That's not about him and even less about "ya'll".
It's also very common and nothing to be ashamed of, but rather something to be very proactive about, especially in terms of attitude and beliefs, if protecting your relationship is a value near the top of your list.
The first step is talking about it...sorting it out...over time. The next step is making sure he is included openly in that discussion at some point.
Been there...done that.

so you think we should have one just takes time?

[ChadCoxRox]

so you think we should have one just takes time?

Nope.
You should not.
I think if your needing to is important enough to you, it will eventually destroy your relationship with him. That's my gut.

But you're not me and I've seen it work for others. So I emphasize the importance of it being "between you two" before doing it rather than a "thing for you."

I think you should reread my first post again and tell me if you want to talk about it further.

[P1993]

oh i dont know i do want one but who knows if we will i cant decide took a year we still dont know

[MikeW]

What is it with all these group sex threads recently. Weird...

OP... Just go ahead and do it. Don't you DARE feel jealous, though. Not even a hint of it. This is supposed to be hot, fun and sexy. Has *nothing* to do with emotional involvement with the third for pity party's sake!

[ChadCoxRox]

I think most all 21 year olds should be free to experiment and learn and grow! So I wish you all the love and support you can get to find the answer and do today with conviction and confidence. Life's too short and you'll be more satisfied later in life knowing you stretched your boundaries more than other things! Sorry, couldn't resist.

[P1993]

sounds good

[Bhp91126]

I'm not getting into the discussion of whether you guys should or should not have a threesome.

Navigating a 3some can be tricky. My recipe to really enjoy one is to focus on "giving" over "receiving". It can be extremely frustrating to wait for your dick to finally get sucked. Also prepare yourselves mentally for when the third is way more interested in one of you than the other. Or for when #3 is totally boring in bed or painful or, or, or.

[triplea99]

I think, you are very young and you should live. Enjoy your life,explore the things you like and the things you dont like. When you have alle the times the thoughts on a threesome and when you really want to find out, if this is a nice feeling for you or not, why you wait? Try it and find out about if this an option for you or a nice adventure or not. You only can find out, when you made the experience.

When you keep yourself in this prison where you always think and where you feel unsafe about what you want or what not, how you wanna feel really lucky or really happy? It is one of your fantasies or one of your dreams. So why waiting? Find out is this dream nice or not and than decide about your further future or what you want.

Dont think what you can take out of your relationship, think about, what you could invest. Why not investing this kind of dream about a threesome and open speak about with your partner? Maybe he also wanna find out how he feels with this experience. Just speak in advance with him and set up few rules maybe. But always be honest and open. When it is something you really feel, speak about and than decide together whats the best for both of you. That will give you a lucky or happy feeling and will stop this feeling about being unsafe what you want.