04-27-2015, 09:21 PM
Well, Lil' Giraffe, what you need to do, apart from relax, is cast away assumptions, as Lexington said, that you're going to be judged harshly by someone who wants to get into your pants. How about concentrating on the warm and horny feelings you get from getting close to someone, learning to appreciate their skin, the contours of their bodies and all the rest of it. It is an experience.
I'd just say that if there is something embarrassing, and you can control it, it would probably be being clean (although some men might enjoy 'not squeaky clean'), because there is a difference between getting sweaty together and having to deal with someone who is in bad need of a shower, but then again that can generally be fixed, depending on the context.
Sex is messy, or can be, and it can also be a source of other anxieties if you have not prepared yourself for a few things: if it gets 'dirty' or 'messy', accept it as part of the experience, don't make a big fuss about it, even laugh about the situation if you have it in you; have condoms, have lube, have towels (paper or fabric) if you're providing the place where this is going to happen (have condoms anyway, just in case, which you might not even be using that first time - as Mike said, it might just be about pleasuring one another with a hand job or a blow job, or any other form of mutual pleasuring. I suppose it's always better to be too ready than not enough.
In that respect, you might do well to have explored how to put on a condom, and you might want to put the condom on him or have him put it on you (that can be fun, if you don't lose it)... but excitement and eagerness will generally take care of that wilting erection... be ready to hug, cuddle, squeeze, caress, maybe suck or lick if you're feeling adventurous... I bet you'll be impressed the first time you hold another man's penis, it's just thrilling in a special way.
The other thing you can also practise with, on your own, if you intend on trying anal at some point, is to work out a way of getting to know your body's reactions to something being inserted down there... You'll want to know how to relax (breathing generally does part of the job for you) but remember that if it's too painful, or too awkward, or makes you feel disgusted or disgusting, you don't have to go there. You will need plenty of lube, probably, though. So it's best to have planned on having some around. ( for this experimentation, any sex toy that's made for the purpose, or any unbreakable (and easily retrievable phallic object might do - it's common sense to sheath it and lube that too anyway).
In a nutshell:
* a clean body
* a healthy outlook
* having an open mind
* being ready to give as well as take
* have no expectations (it might well just not happen the way you'd expect that first or those first time-s)
* being ready for safer sex
* foreplay (depending on how horny and urgent it all feels) is a great way to make the experience enjoyable.
* afterplay and rest, if there is time to bask in the afterglow of orgasm...
Good luck, because you sound ready. mile:
I'd just say that if there is something embarrassing, and you can control it, it would probably be being clean (although some men might enjoy 'not squeaky clean'), because there is a difference between getting sweaty together and having to deal with someone who is in bad need of a shower, but then again that can generally be fixed, depending on the context.
Sex is messy, or can be, and it can also be a source of other anxieties if you have not prepared yourself for a few things: if it gets 'dirty' or 'messy', accept it as part of the experience, don't make a big fuss about it, even laugh about the situation if you have it in you; have condoms, have lube, have towels (paper or fabric) if you're providing the place where this is going to happen (have condoms anyway, just in case, which you might not even be using that first time - as Mike said, it might just be about pleasuring one another with a hand job or a blow job, or any other form of mutual pleasuring. I suppose it's always better to be too ready than not enough.
In that respect, you might do well to have explored how to put on a condom, and you might want to put the condom on him or have him put it on you (that can be fun, if you don't lose it)... but excitement and eagerness will generally take care of that wilting erection... be ready to hug, cuddle, squeeze, caress, maybe suck or lick if you're feeling adventurous... I bet you'll be impressed the first time you hold another man's penis, it's just thrilling in a special way.
The other thing you can also practise with, on your own, if you intend on trying anal at some point, is to work out a way of getting to know your body's reactions to something being inserted down there... You'll want to know how to relax (breathing generally does part of the job for you) but remember that if it's too painful, or too awkward, or makes you feel disgusted or disgusting, you don't have to go there. You will need plenty of lube, probably, though. So it's best to have planned on having some around. ( for this experimentation, any sex toy that's made for the purpose, or any unbreakable (and easily retrievable phallic object might do - it's common sense to sheath it and lube that too anyway).
In a nutshell:
* a clean body
* a healthy outlook
* having an open mind
* being ready to give as well as take
* have no expectations (it might well just not happen the way you'd expect that first or those first time-s)
* being ready for safer sex
* foreplay (depending on how horny and urgent it all feels) is a great way to make the experience enjoyable.
* afterplay and rest, if there is time to bask in the afterglow of orgasm...
Good luck, because you sound ready. mile: