01-20-2016, 09:47 PM
LJay Wrote:Maybe he just discovered that he wants to flee from his family because he doesn't want to buy birthday presents for ungrateful grandchildren.^^^
4 cups of coffee later..
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01-20-2016, 09:47 PM
LJay Wrote:Maybe he just discovered that he wants to flee from his family because he doesn't want to buy birthday presents for ungrateful grandchildren.^^^ 4 cups of coffee later..
01-21-2016, 05:50 AM
(Edited 01-21-2016, 05:57 AM by meridannight.)
Anocxu Wrote:Now a question for you.. i'd be inclined to think that, yes, it was in the degree of self-awareness and also exposure, or some other external change, in such a case as you posited. what i mean by exposure is the guy having been exposed to certain strong enough stimuli/circumstances/people/etc to trigger such an awareness. human psychology is what's complicated. for various reasons, conscious or unconscious, a person can deny and suppress certain aspects of self. it's a common occurrence. people can also self-sabotage themselves to a surprisingly high degree. a lot would depend on the type of environment and people they are exposed to. if a man discovers at 50 that he is gay, i would expect there have been a concomitant change in his environment, or in the people he'd been exposed to, or some trauma/personal experience that made him more disposed towards introspection to accompany such a realization. or, alternatively, it could just as well be that he has, indeed, subconsciously denied his attraction to other men, and over the years his frustration will have accumulated, his dissatisfaction with life become more and more obvious, until he will have reached a point where he can no longer continue living the way he did, without acknowledging the truth. i don't believe a man's sexuality can change, although it is clear that his sexual behavior does not have to agree with his sexuality. do you think sexuality can change?
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01-21-2016, 09:18 AM
meridannight Wrote:i'd be inclined to think that, yes, it was in the degree of self-awareness and also exposure, or some other external change, in such a case as you posited. what i mean by exposure is the guy having been exposed to certain strong enough stimuli/circumstances/people/etc to trigger such an awareness. ^^^^ What you wrote here is key to the question below. meridannight Wrote:do you think sexuality can change? I believe (now more than ever) that the baseline sexuality in a human being does not change. Exposure or stimuli is what will provoke , unveil , "activate" or supress variations in sexual behavior until true self awareness (including sexuality ) surfaces. Now .. If scientists / microbiologists were to examine random people, peeking in at their chromosomes ... I'm sure the results would be interesting. That is.. The current status of their sexuality VS what they truly are. Great convo .. Much appreciated.
01-21-2016, 10:18 AM
meridannight Wrote:not trying to argue with you, maybe for some people it is like that. For me, I would have to agree. Although I was in the closet for about 30 years (31 years old now), sexuality was never a very complicated matter. I can that I always knew I was gay. I tried denying it and it took me far too long to come to terms with it.. but I always knew as far back as I can remember. That's not to say my life experience is the same as everyone elses. It isn't. But for me knowing what my sexuality was, was pretty simple. The societal issues were the problem.
02-26-2016, 07:45 AM
It's so hard. Any advice?
02-27-2016, 03:21 AM
(Edited 02-27-2016, 03:57 AM by Insertnamehere.)
Finding random sex? I thought that was the easiest bit when using apps or going to bars....maybe I'm wrong, what do I know anyway?
What have you tried so far?
02-27-2016, 03:51 AM
Insertnamehere Wrote:Finding random sex? I thought that was the easiet bit when using apps or going to bars....maybe I'm wrong, what do I know anyway? Yeah, exactly what I was thinking... If you lived in dakota or like alabama I could understand that you're having a hard time finding a hook up. But if you're in jersey then take the train to the city, find a bar in the village or hells kitchen, have a couple of drinks, and make some eye contact. Its like a fucking meat market.
02-27-2016, 03:57 AM
Emiliano Wrote:Yeah, exactly what I was thinking... I'm guessing he's shy?
02-27-2016, 04:04 AM
Insertnamehere Wrote:I'm guessing he's shy? Thats why I said get some drinks.
02-27-2016, 04:12 AM
Emiliano Wrote:Thats why I said get some drinks. Casual sex in exchange for his liver. Sounds fair. |
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