bromance17 Wrote:https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/positivity
http://www.wordreference.com/engr/positivity
You can check on these 2 dictionary links and see that positivity is a word.
Very well, on that point I stand corrected.
Quote:I dont want to fight with you because i respect older people. Ok im sorry if this passage agitate you.
Do you think that this is the problem? I act as other people's victim? If you spot anything else it'be cool to hear
I don't know you as a person, of course. All I know are the words you provide here, and even that is open to interpretation and subjective opinion.
What I look for is how self-aware someone is. I'll try to explain what I mean.
People tend to "blame" other people or, much to the same effect, "blame" themselves for life problems. But what if "blame" is irrelevant? What if what IS relevant is self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's actions and manifestations? What if what IS relevant is trying to see one's self as objectively as possible? (Not easy, obviously, as we are all burdened with our own personal histories, scars, baggage, fears, prejudices, distorted perceptions of ourselves and others, and so on.)
What I don't see in the words of your OP, is any hint that you're aware of how you come across to people. How it is that you, yourself, are contributing to the very thing you're complaining about.
The trick in trying to see ourselves objectively is to NOT fall into the trap of "blaming" ourselves or becoming a victim of our own self-criticisms. You mentioned having a low self-esteem. This is what I'm talking about. Being objective simply means we SEE clearly and OWN certain facts about ourselves... without self-incrimination or self-judgment. I see, "Oh, I behave this way and that contributes to how other people see or react to me."
It's not that there is anything "wrong" with you... we're all free to be, behave or manifest however we wish. But when it comes to other peoples' reactions to how we are, how we present ourselves, they're free to do as they wish as well. The question is, are we OK with their reactions or not? IF NOT (and clearly you're not ok with it), then we have to self-aware enough to ask the relevant questions in a non-blaming or self-incriminating way: "How do I contribute to the way other people see me and treat me?"
This question can't be answered in the abstract. It's not a guessing game of 'it might be this, it might be that'. Rather the question needs to be asked from the point of view of self-observation. If I become self-aware, I *see* directly what I'm doing, how I'm behaving, how I manifest... and I see directly how other people 'react' to it. THEN I can decide, "Am I ok with this or not?" Is this getting me what I want or not? It's not a judgment, it's simply a practical question. If I want people to relate to me differently than they do, then in what way do *I* need to be different with them?
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