Im not sure if Im gay straight or bi????

[TwisttheLeaf]

I need some advice and I hope there are some of you that have gone through similar situations as me. Im not sure if I am gay or straight or bi. Here are the facts.

I've known I was into men since my very first crush as a kid. That said? I didn't become interested in girls too until my mid-teens. From there I became progressively more... open minded, I guess you might say.

I guess what I'm saying is that there's a wide array of preferences out there, and there's nothing wrong with either of them. Neither do you just "fit" into one "classification" and that's that. Sometimes, tastes and preferences develop over time.

My friends always tells me that if I were gay they would understand, and my parents always tell me the same. My father said if I were gay he would still love me and he tells me that he supports gay rights. The girls at school always ask me if I am gay all of the time.

It sounds like you have a wonderful support system. Lots of love and acceptance is a good thing. They might be a bit misguided on their perceptions, but you have to appreciate the love and acceptance being showered on you, yeah?

I dont dress like a gay person and I dont act gay Im a normal guy. I have posters of naked women up in my room and I look at straight porn and fantasize about women.

Gay people don't dress differently, man. Neither do they "act" differently (other than some of those that are decidedly camp). The huge majority of gay men pass for straight men every day. They're just men.

I have never been molested or anything. I have never had a girlfriend and Im still a virgin with women. Ive been experimenting with guys since I was 10 and...

You've been experimenting with guys since you were 10, and yet you say that you weren't molested. 10 is a little young for a boy to be interested in sex without -some- kind of guidance that would be considered molestation. I'm not saying you're being dishonest, but you might want to consider your past more closely.

I have had sex with alot of guys but I dont fantasize about guys or want to date them. Its like only when Im alone with another guy or bored and he says something like "If you suck mine I will suck yours".

I have personally never met a 100% straight man interested in having another man suck his dick, let alone fuck him. I guess they could be out there, but I've not met one yet. On the other hand, I've met plenty of bisexual men that claim they are straight "with just a little external interest in men". Thus.... bisexual, they just are uncomfortable with the label.

I never told anyone about sex with guys. I have a hard time talking to girls but an easy time talking to guys.

Just because -you- haven't told anyone about sex with guys doesn't mean that those lots of guys you've slept with have kept their mouths shut.

My grandmother said boys only turn gay if they cant get girls or they get molested. I dont know if that is true but probly not. I dont hate gay people or anything but I sort get scared about if I am gay.

Your grandmother's theory is ridiculous.

Why are you scared about being gay (or bisexual)? Knowing what you like and what you're interested usually makes life easier, not more difficult.

Could I be gay and not know it? I will feel stupid if everyone else knows it and Im the last to find out. Did any of you guys go through this?

It's called denial. That is how someone is gay "and not know it". So, in a way, yes... you could be. But from everything you wrote, it sounds far more likely that you're bi.

[Wolfe]

I was saying the big thing that scares me is all of the hate, when the goverment tried to allow gay and transexual kids the right to use school bathrooms I heard some boys say that if they caught a faggot in the bathroom they would cut off his "you know what".

[Wolfe]

can somebody message me I keep losing posts

[princealbertofb]

[MENTION=24505]Wolfe[/MENTION], I have sent you a private message. What is actually happening is that as for all new posters there is a 50 post limit that you have to get past to have full access to all the features of the site. This has been implemented to get rid of robots and other trolls. Just go to the games threads and tally up your first fifty posts and then your posts will no longer disappear for moderation.

[princealbertofb]

@Wolfe, I don't think that you need to know precisely what your sexual orientation is just now. What would appear possible would be that you are at least bisexual, with an interest in women despite your being a virgin (but that's not unnatural at 16, to be honest) and given that you have had sex experiences with boys / men previously.

The fact that you are comfortable having sex with males does not even mean that you are gay. It just means that you are experimenting and so far it's been your outlet for your libido, one which has been easier to find than a female who'd be willing to give you a good time in the same way.

Whether you actually prefer sex with men or with girls will be difficult to ascertain until you've actually tried sex with women, or at least with one (hopefully it will be a satisfactory experience).

Being gay, I think, is rather more a question of having feelings for a man, as well as being able to be intimate with him, as a hetero relationship would be defined by the capacity to enjoy a romantic relationship with the other sex as well as getting intimate with the other sex. A bisexual person could find fulfilment in both types of relationship, maybe at the same time, or in consecutive relationships.

But at sixteen, you're entitled to be experimenting, and you're also entitled not to know what your real sexual orientation is.
I don't know what your grandmother has spotted about you and your orientation, but she may be completely wrong. I know that the way she defines homosexuality isn't quite accurate, though.

[Wolfe]

I never had sex with men. The boys were my same age I was not molested

[princealbertofb]

I think you know what kind of experience you've had. We sometimes use the word 'men' as a more general use for human being of a male nature..., the same as we use boys sometimes to talk about men who are adults. I think we can accept that you've only had sex with boys of your age who are curious to find out about sexuality. It is all very normal, to be honest.

[princealbertofb]

[MENTION=24505]Wolfe[/MENTION], I hope you don't mind if I ask you this, or at least if I give you a reminder. I don't know what sort of sex you've been engaging with (other than blow jobs?) but please remember that your sexual health is as important as your mental health and that means using the right protection, or getting tested regularly if you have sex with anyone (girl or boy) without protection.

[Wolfe]

Ive basically done everything with a few guys not just oral. I want to wear a condom but I think they would get angry.

[Wolfe]

I think this is good advice I will wait until Im older to decide if im gay