Had Gay Sex and Scared

[jbrowder24]

If you've truly enjoyed a girlfriend and are attracted to women, then you are most likely bisexual. You say this guy is a friend. You should try to chat with him about how you are bi but a bit confused and new to it all, and want to be discreet about what happened/happens. Perhaps he'll be a good friend to explore with secretly but it's best to be honest because if he is expecting to end up going out on dates in public and you're not ready for that, he could feel hurt. But maybe he is just after someone to have a good time with as well and not caring about that - you still don't want him assuming you're out when you're not. I wouldn't worry too much about what girls would think if they found out though - most younger ones wouldn't care these days, and the ones that do are probably prudes you woudn't like dating anyway.

[toomuch45]

i agree what jbrowder said also i realized something that life is not about being someone else its about you and what your feeling what you like and what you do everyone is different and if you like boys then you shouldent worry about anyone else and what they say about you and besides like everyone else said about women there are tons of women out there who will still like you if your bisexual not all but most women are very supportive to gay men and trust me if this guy really likes you a lot and you really like butt sex then go for it cause you never know he may be the one for you.

dont feel afraid to be who you are because most people say that they like it ending up denying themselves because of all the controversy thats going on with us gays now a days see me im 100% percent sure that im bisexual although i think some women are attractive but i love gay men more which i think thay are very atttractive even more. you just have to calm down and know more about yourself.
and i hope everything works out for you

[blake]

Well, I went to his place and we talked about it. He's aware of my situation since he knows me somewhat well. Essentially, he told me that he enjoyed Friday night and that he meant nothing by it. He said that he does not expect me to go out with him or anything and that he'll keep quiet about anything we do.
We did not have sex last night; we just talked for a while and went out with some friends, but left separately and went home.

So, I'm confused. I need a few days to let this settle in before I contact him again, yet I really want to do it again. Am I a whore if I text him next weekend and we do a "repeat?" I think he'd probably be down for it, but I'll make some terrible mistake and get someone hurt (emotionally).

[marshlander]

I'm not quite getting this apparent concern with being a "whore". I thought it referred to someone who offers sex for payment. Since you've made no mention of a financial transaction you clearly don't come into that category. You don't need anyone's approval here for pursuing a friendship that may have some rather pleasant benefits.

[toomuch45]

Well, I went to his place and we talked about it. He's aware of my situation since he knows me somewhat well. Essentially, he told me that he enjoyed Friday night and that he meant nothing by it. He said that he does not expect me to go out with him or anything and that he'll keep quiet about anything we do.
We did not have sex last night; we just talked for a while and went out with some friends, but left separately and went home.

So, I'm confused. I need a few days to let this settle in before I contact him again, yet I really want to do it again. Am I a whore if I text him next weekend and we do a "repeat?" I think he'd probably be down for it, but I'll make some terrible mistake and get someone hurt (emotionally).

no i dont think your a whore

[ZackT]

Just go over there and do whatever you wanna do. If you like what happens then that's all that really matters, right?

As far as stuff about "Word getting out", that's something you have to come to accept, regardless of whether or not you sleep with another man ever again. It's happened once now, so it's possible it could "get out" if your friend tells someone else, and so on. You have to figure out whether or not you can handle that.

Right now, it sounds like you're pretty confused cause the way you've written your post, it suggests that this all happened kinda fast and caught you off guard. So at this exact moment, I don't think you could handle word getting out. I don't think you could handle anyone in your personal life knowing this happened.

But if you find this worthwhile and wanna keep doing it, then just remember that it's not evil or wrong. Nothing any wronger about what you did with your friend than what plenty of guys, maybe even yourself, have done with girls. One night stands, fuckbuddies, it happens whether gay or straight.

I think you're doing great by just talking about it. Letting that guy know what's going on in your head will go a long ways in preventing emotional damage. If you guys just wanna fuck, then tell him that. After that, IF he developed feelings and you didn't, that's just a shame and the way it goes sometimes. Same situation could happen if it was a girl instead.

Have fun

[blake]

So, just an update. I've been texting this guy again and we're going out again tonight. He texted me this afternoon and asked to hang out. I'm really scared and excited and I honestly really hope we do it.

[matty7]

well just have fun n remember precauitions even if you dont do it just have a good time together , it will all work out

[ZackT]

Oh I bet if you wanna do it, it'll happen. I'm sure he wants to as well.

[blake]

I went over to his place last night and we had a great time. We had sex again and it was a lot of fun. Afterwards we decided to go out the bar with some friends and we had a great time.