11-07-2007, 11:27 AM
Wow ... a number of interesting points raised, and all whilst I was merrily off in the land of nod !!
Dan, whilst I'm sure Michael can (and will) speak on his own behalf, he's not a racist, so yeah - I think you perhaps misinterpreted the thrust of his point, which was just that it really doesn't matter whether your child has two same-gender parents or two different-gender parents, the odds are, he/she is going to get teased at school for SOMETHING, so this is just as likely a target as anything else.
FutureRD, I do hope I didn't come across as suggesting I wouldn't love an adopted child as much as if it were my own flesh and blood - I was aiming for explaining that, to me, having my own child by my partner would be bliss, as it would be a continuation of our respective family lines, and represent an act of total love between us, and that can't be a bad thing. PLUS of course we would be able to watch the child grow, and exhibit some of my characteristics, and some of his ... which would be reward after reward (the good and the bad bits).
To round off, I would rather have a child and stand by its side through all the ups and downs life has to offer, helping it to grow, develop, and appreciate that there IS good and bad in the world, but that it's a wonderful gift to have the chance to live in it and to find its own way through life, than to rule out the possibility of having a child because the score in the potentially negative column was so great as to sway my opinion ...
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with not wanting kids - far from it - it's all a personal preference at the end of the day ... but that's my personal take on it, for myself.
Cheers guys mile:.
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!
Dan, whilst I'm sure Michael can (and will) speak on his own behalf, he's not a racist, so yeah - I think you perhaps misinterpreted the thrust of his point, which was just that it really doesn't matter whether your child has two same-gender parents or two different-gender parents, the odds are, he/she is going to get teased at school for SOMETHING, so this is just as likely a target as anything else.
FutureRD, I do hope I didn't come across as suggesting I wouldn't love an adopted child as much as if it were my own flesh and blood - I was aiming for explaining that, to me, having my own child by my partner would be bliss, as it would be a continuation of our respective family lines, and represent an act of total love between us, and that can't be a bad thing. PLUS of course we would be able to watch the child grow, and exhibit some of my characteristics, and some of his ... which would be reward after reward (the good and the bad bits).
To round off, I would rather have a child and stand by its side through all the ups and downs life has to offer, helping it to grow, develop, and appreciate that there IS good and bad in the world, but that it's a wonderful gift to have the chance to live in it and to find its own way through life, than to rule out the possibility of having a child because the score in the potentially negative column was so great as to sway my opinion ...
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with not wanting kids - far from it - it's all a personal preference at the end of the day ... but that's my personal take on it, for myself.
Cheers guys mile:.
!?!?! Shadow !?!?!