So for the past 3 months...

[princealbertofb]

be good to yourself and find a way to lower the amount of pressure. Maybe there are some things that could ''wait''?

[MidgetGem]

Thank you for all your advice and help and tips and stuff.. I followed up on some of it and spoke to my college tutors who are actually really understanding and have gave me some extensions on the work, I then called the universities I applied to and one of them got back to me and asked me to send my portfolio so I've posted that this morning, and from the same university, because i applied to two courses there - they sent out a tutor/head teacher to interview a few of us at college/speak to us and low and behold he spoke to me and liked my work best apparently so.. now the waiting game starts again but atleast it's looking positive right? i feel much better now that i know things are moving along and that i have that bit of extra time to get things done instead of rushing about like a headless chicken stressing, worrying, panicking and putting my health into the danger zones just for work.

However, I still struggle to say no to people but that's something to work on i guess? right? I'm sorry for this post, it's not just the uni's getting me down and thats not just why these thoughts have occurred just to clarify, its a mixture of everything at the moment but i've took a few steps forwards with a "false" smile on but it seems to have worked and gotten me somewhere in the right direction.

Cannot thank you guys enough, you're like the bandwagon shoving me along the right path and my support despite not knowing you lot all that well - massive hugs go out to all of you - still on the mend both mentally and physically but feeling great today and well.. my friends dragging me out to see the hunger games tonight cannot wait!

[mrk2010]

Thank you for all your advice and help and tips and stuff.. I followed up on some of it and spoke to my college tutors who are actually really understanding and have gave me some extensions on the work, I then called the universities I applied to and one of them got back to me and asked me to send my portfolio so I've posted that this morning, and from the same university, because i applied to two courses there - they sent out a tutor/head teacher to interview a few of us at college/speak to us and low and behold he spoke to me and liked my work best apparently so.. now the waiting game starts again but atleast it's looking positive right? i feel much better now that i know things are moving along and that i have that bit of extra time to get things done instead of rushing about like a headless chicken stressing, worrying, panicking and putting my health into the danger zones just for work.

However, I still struggle to say no to people but that's something to work on i guess? right? I'm sorry for this post, it's not just the uni's getting me down and thats not just why these thoughts have occurred just to clarify, its a mixture of everything at the moment but i've took a few steps forwards with a "false" smile on but it seems to have worked and gotten me somewhere in the right direction.

Cannot thank you guys enough, you're like the bandwagon shoving me along the right path and my support despite not knowing you lot all that well - massive hugs go out to all of you - still on the mend both mentally and physically but feeling great today and well.. my friends dragging me out to see the hunger games tonight cannot wait!

Trust me I know the feeling I was given 2 1/2 weeks to write my 13000 word dissertation and it's ready to submit today (thank god I did a load of it in advance). Learn to say no to people, for example this weekend I am not answering calls and messages from people doing my project and giving them tips, why should I do the work for them to benefit and outshine me. I constantly have mini break downs when I have too much to do because I'm a perfectionist by nature. Don't end up like me one big stress head. :tongue:

[Nick9]

Thank you for all your advice and help and tips and stuff.. I followed up on some of it and spoke to my college tutors who are actually really understanding and have gave me some extensions on the work, I then called the universities I applied to and one of them got back to me and asked me to send my portfolio so I've posted that this morning, and from the same university, because i applied to two courses there - they sent out a tutor/head teacher to interview a few of us at college/speak to us and low and behold he spoke to me and liked my work best apparently so.. now the waiting game starts again but atleast it's looking positive right?

It definitely is!

However, I still struggle to say no to people but that's something to work on i guess? right?

Yes, it is not easy. You always think, well but I could do it, couldn't I? I remember I used to think about my free time as about something not valuable, something that was just left to be filled. Guess what, it's totally wrong The time you spend with a book or just staring out of the window is as valuable as your time spent in school.
It's part of your life and it counts and all those things are equally important.

I think the idea mrk2010 suggests can help you. Turn off your phone or messages on your computer during some days. If it makes your fingers twitch, pretend the area you are in has electricity failure We've become so attached to the cellphones and computers. It cut our free time because we are just a call or click away and we are hardly ever out of the reach.

And when somebody asks you if you can do some work for him that is time-consuming and you don't really want to... try to ask yourself If it was possible would I buy a free time to do it?
Try to see your free time as something valuable.

I'm sorry for this post,

Please don't be There is nothing bad about asking for help.

my friends dragging me out to see the hunger games tonight cannot wait!

God, everybody talks about it and I have no idea what it is. I guess I need to do my homework :biggrin:

[MidgetGem]

Thank you Nick and Mark, I'm not long back in from the cinema and to be more specific, I dragged him along to see it with me because I'm hooked on the books, pre-booked it two weeks in advance (glad I did, the place was cram packed and filled to the brim) and well! it was... AMAZING, so glad I took a bit of free time, for the first time in weeks my head is clear and the weight on my shoulders has lifted slightly. :redface:

Still, the odd thought popped into my head that I should be doing college work or client work to get it finished but no! I threw those thoughts out the window and tried to think about myself, my free time, my well-being, my health and my friendship/relationship with this guy in question

I wouldn't have done this before if I hadn't posted here and read all your wonderful words and cannot thank you enough for allowing me to open up here - without being shouted at or moaned at or called names for doing so.

[Nick9]

WELL DONE, MATE!!!

Now just try it more often so that you get used to the idea, that caring about yourself is actually the right thing to do

[Jay]

I try, but I find myself feeling extremely guilty, because to me it seems selfish.

That I should shove my worries, problems aside and help others instead and focus on my work.

You will continue to be depressed as long as you continue to put others first and not you.

I know how you feel, Midget. I had this problem too but as Pellaz has said, we have to set our main priority straight. You. Me. Us. The rest should be second on queue.

Set your life and career for you. Not for others. If others can't appreciate and be proud of you. Don't worry. Be proud for yourself. Appreciate yourself.

If we continue to worry about others and worry what other people think about us, we will continue to fall deeper and deeper. It's hard to climb back afterward.

If you need to talk, we are here for you.

[MidgetGem]

Thank you, it seems once again I've pulled an all nighter to get work done been at it since 6pm its now 6am the next day, editing a video, authoring it to dvd and designing the DVD lightscribe print - still to do the DVD cover design it just needs a background design and info added :/ I'm proud of myself in a sense as I managed to say no to a few people today despite falling back into bad habits work-wise - deadbeat though and i need a break! the design can wait till later, if need be I can email the client it as he is picking up the footage later on EEP.

If any of you want to make a DVD cover/background design for goldilocks and the three bears, something simple/elegant is what I was thinking but I lack the inspiration just now as my head bashes the keyboard slowly knocking the depression and "S" thoughts out of it.

[mrk2010]

Thank you, it seems once again I've pulled an all nighter to get work done been at it since 6pm its now 6am the next day, editing a video, authoring it to dvd and designing the DVD lightscribe print - still to do the DVD cover design it just needs a background design and info added :/ I'm proud of myself in a sense as I managed to say no to a few people today despite falling back into bad habits work-wise - deadbeat though and i need a break! the design can wait till later, if need be I can email the client it as he is picking up the footage later on EEP.

If any of you want to make a DVD cover/background design for goldilocks and the three bears, something simple/elegant is what I was thinking but I lack the inspiration just now as my head bashes the keyboard slowly knocking the depression and "S" thoughts out of it.

An all nighter, tut tut tut I'm gonna say do as I say not as I do. Haha there will be times when you overwork yourself and overcompensate. I have exams in may so in Easter I'm gonna butcher my revision (probably a few late nighters there too) but I have May - September off, so I'm gonna make up for it. :tongue:

[Gizzie]

I sometimes have "depressed days" on purpose.
I let myself sleep in, do nothing and feel sorry for myself or as long as it takes.
Hell I wont even shower.

So for a quick fix, maybe you just need to be really selfish and slack off as much as you can for a day or two...