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[princealbertofb]

Joseph,

You will be amazed at how many mums know before their son's tell them......


I'm sure you love your mum very much and visa versa

I wish you much love, sweet heart

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Yes it's true Joseph, many mums already know and all they need to do is hear it from our mouths, then maybe they are just more sure of how to treat us. But if your mother loves you as much as you love her, and I'm sure she does, then it should be ok to tell her. However, as Marshlander said, she may need a little time to adjust to the idea.

[fjp999]

If you've read his initial post, Frank, you'll know that Joseph enjoys dancing, and cooking and shopping, for starters. That's a great way to live, in my opinion... mile:

Thanks for that PA. I did forget about the dancing part.

Hey joseph, wanna go dancing together? I love dancing too and have been to hundred of clubs all over the world. It is so liberating!

[joseph]

thank you maybe she nows it so she miht not mind. i decided i going to do a letter soon about it. an give her the letter. yes i woud like that becase i relly like dancing. i been to discos at a club it is very very very very fun!!!mile:

[fjp999]

thank you maybe she nows it so she miht not mind. i decided i going to do a letter soon about it. an give her the letter. yes i woud like that becase i relly like dancing. i been to discos at a club it is very very very very fun!!!mile:

joseph, I was curious if you wanted to read the letter to your mom or just give the letter to her and let her read it? Will you stay in the room when she reads it or do? How do you imagine giving your mom the letter?

Do you want to tell your sister too?

Well, if you need any help or suggestions on your letter you can always ask us or your care worker.

Good luck,
frank

[joseph]

i think i going to write the letter and give it to her and run away abit!! i wont to tell my sister or my mum can tell her if she wonted i didnt mind. when i wrote it i can show it to you maybe and you can tell me if its ok thank you very very muchmile:

[fjp999]

sounds like a good plan... good luck.

[princealbertofb]

i think i going to write the letter and give it to her and run away abit!! i wont to tell my sister or my mum can tell her if she wonted i didnt mind. when i wrote it i can show it to you maybe and you can tell me if its ok thank you very very muchmile:

Joseph, I have known for a long long time that I was gay, or probably gay. Then I met Marshlander and it became very obvious that I wanted to try a gay relationship. When things got a bit more intimate and loving, I decided I had to tell my mother, because she was asking me to go and see her and to bring Marshlander with me. I had not told her he was my boyfriend for reasons that are a bit long to explain now, but anyway, I wanted her to know he was my boyfriend so that she wouldn't treat him just like a male friend, you know. I was very very scared of telling her... I don't know why. But I was scared.

A day or two before going to see her (she lives 100 miles from my home) I plucked up the courage to write her a letter. I think letters are a good way of telling people important things that are difficult to say eye to eye, you know. I wrote the letter, explaining my circumstances and how I'd met this wonderful man who was giving me so much love and pleasure, and how I hoped this would not be a shock to her...

I read the letter to Marshlander before sending it. As I read it, I felt extremely moved and started crying all my soul (I have tears running down now, as I remember this moment) because as I was reading it out to him, I understood how much my mother loved me and that it was not important that I was gay or not, ALL SHE WANTED WAS MY HAPPINESS. I realised this. So the tears kept streaming and I finished reading the letter to my companion. Then I went to the computer, and put it in an e-mail. I sent it that very morning. Then I wanted to leave the flat and be out ALL DAY... just so she couldn't phone me immediately.

When we got back from our day's outing around the lake, there was a message on the answerphone saying: "You must have thought I was born yesterday if you think I didn't already know". She knew, and she's expected it but she did not want to force me to say it before I was ready.

Now she thinks of Marshlander as her son-in-law even though we are not officially partnered yet. It is very nice and she's a really cool and top lady. I think she is very very grateful to Marshlander for making me happy.

I hope your mother will be as happy for you as mine was, Joseph. Good luck with writing that letter, and yes, you can show it to us so we can help you if necessary. Just tell her what's in your heart and also explain to her maybe why you were afraid of telling her.

[joseph]

hello thank you for telling me that. i nown i was gay along time aswell. even before i new what gay means i newn i was it!!. i dident now he was your boyfrind that is nicemile: i doing the letter becase it is abit easier!!i hope my mum not be sad or worryid sometimes she worrys sometimes. i hope you are not sad. i am happy that you mum was not corss or sad. i hope my mum the same she wonts me be happy/. i dont now if my mum nown already or not. your mum sounds very nice and my mum is very nice as well!mile: i will do the letter very soon and show you if i got the rihte things in. thank you very very very much for telling me about that.

[princealbertofb]

hello thank you for telling me that. i nown i was gay along time aswell. even before i new what gay means i newn i was it!!. i dident now he was your boyfrind that is nicemile: i doing the letter becase it is abit easier!!i hope my mum not be sad or worryid sometimes she worrys sometimes. i hope you are not sad. i am happy that you mum was not corss or sad. i hope my mum the same she wonts me be happy/. i dont now if my mum nown already or not. your mum sounds very nice and my mum is very nice as well!mile: i will do the letter very soon and show you if i got the rihte things in. thank you very very very much for telling me about that.

You're welcome, Joseph. I think mums worry about us because that's what mums do when they have children... they worry about them. That's a normal way to be, for most mums. In your case, because you need help, she might worry a little more than the average mum, but I am sure she wants you to be happy just as much as my mum did. The only difficult thing might be (it is possible but not necessarily true) if your mum thinks being gay is wrong. Do you think your mum thinks being gay is wrong? Do you know any gays among your acquaintances, family and friends? How does she treat them? Is your mum very religious?

[joseph]

we not now any gay peopel so i didnt now if she minds or not but she is not religose. but she didnt say she not like gay peple mile: she seen gay peple on the telly and she dident say its bad. i had a queston but i dont now if it is stupid. i dont have a boyfrend so i didnt now if she miht say i am not being gay becase i only thouht it.and if i was wrong becuse i just thouht it.:frown: