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[princealbertofb]

we not now any gay peopel so i didnt now if she minds or not but she is not religose. but she didnt say she not like gay peple mile: she seen gay peple on the telly and she dident say its bad. i had a queston but i dont now if it is stupid. i dont have a boyfrend so i didnt now if she miht say i am not being gay becase i only thouht it.and if i was wrong becuse i just thouht it.:frown:

Well, you don't have to have a boyfriend to prove that you are gay. Being gay is a feeling, a state of mind, a state of desire also. It doesn't mean you have to have a boyfriend. Being gay means that you are more interested in forming a relationship with a man, sexually and emotionally, than with a woman, that's all.

I hope your mum will understand that you are gay if you tell her that's how you feel. She might have questions to ask to see how you know you are gay. If you can give her some straight answers, then maybe she will believe you. How old is your mum?

[joseph]

yes. becase i am gay even thouh i not had a boyfriend! my mum is i think about 50. it is hard becase i wont to tell her about it and how i nown but it is quite hard to explin but i realy realy now it but it is quite hard to say:frown: i wont her to belive me.

[princealbertofb]

yes. becase i am gay even thouh i not had a boyfriend! my mum is i think about 50. it is hard becase i wont to tell her about it and how i nown but it is quite hard to explin but i realy realy now it but it is quite hard to say:frown: i wont her to belive me.

Well, if I remember, Joseph, you fell in love with a man at a camp, wasn't that the story? So if you (a man) are in love with another man, that makes you gay, and she can understand that. She may be worried, though, that this man made you do things that you did not want to do. So you have to reassure her that nothing happened, or that if it does happen in the future you will be careful. Maybe she can help you find someone decent for a boyfriend when she finally knows?

[joseph]

yes.i can tell her about when that happened. so she can now what i mean. i will do that in the letter. i have to go to bed now i will write the letter soon and show it you. thank you very much for helping me mile:

[fjp999]

Here is my story about how my mom found out...

It was by accident. I was at Uni. My sister had gone into my room and found some private letters. She had them in her room and my mom found those letters.

My mom is very religious and was very upset. In the end I asked one question "Do you love me?" She stopped crying and said "Yes" and everything was fine after.

[Star Twister]

Here is my story about how my mom found out...

It was by accident. I was at Uni. My sister had gone into my room and found some private letters. She had them in her room and my mom found those letters.

My mom is very religious and was very upset. In the end I asked one question "Do you love me?" She stopped crying and said "Yes" and everything was fine after.

OMG

That's Lovely

xxxx

[joseph]

hello i have wrote the letter on my computer today it took me very long to say eveything i mean propely but here is the letter is it ok.

Dear mum
I am writing a letter to you becase I wonted to tell you some thing but I was scared to tell you it.it was I am gay. I hope you not cross or sad becase I love you and I dident wont to make you be cross or sad.i relised it becuse when there was a man at holiday scame and I relly loved him and when he had a girlfriend I was very very sad becase I wonted him be my boyfriend and I cryed. Also I like seeing men and I rely woud like a boyfriend. I hope you say I am allowed to be gay and have a boyfriend. I told it to you becase I wonted you to now all them things about me because it is nice when I tell you things and I said my problems to you and when you help me. I hope it is ok and you not sad. I love you very very very very very much love from joseph xxx

[princealbertofb]

hello i have wrote the letter on my computer today it took me very long to say eveything i mean propely but here is the letter is it ok.

Dear mum
I am writing a letter to you becase I wonted to tell you some thing but I was scared to tell you it.it was I am gay. I hope you not cross or sad becase I love you and I dident wont to make you be cross or sad.i relised it becuse when there was a man at holiday scame and I relly loved him and when he had a girlfriend I was very very sad becase I wonted him be my boyfriend and I cryed. Also I like seeing men and I rely woud like a boyfriend. I hope you say I am allowed to be gay and have a boyfriend. I told it to you becase I wonted you to now all them things about me because it is nice when I tell you things and I said my problems to you and when you help me. I hope it is ok and you not sad. I love you very very very very very much love from joseph xxx

That is a beautiful letter, Joseph... It says it all. I would suggest maybe one little change which I highlighted in purple, if you think it corresponds to what you'd like to say. I suggest "I didn't want you to be hurt or to make you sad", instead of "make you be cross or sad". I can see that you are very considerate of her feelings and don't want her to feel hurt by this truth. However, I think that it's much better to be truthful, especially with our parents. Of course, I hope she will realise that it's YOUR life after all, not hers, and YOU have to live it. I am sure she just wants you to be the happiest son she's ever seen. Bravo for writing this... it's very very brave of you. mile: mile: mile: We are proud of you. :biggrin:

[fjp999]

Good job joseph

It is a good, expressive letter. I think it is nice and short and has everything you want to express as discussed here.

Are you going to print out the letter and give it to her? Put it in a card?

I had an idea. I know that you like to cook and bake cakes. Maybe make it a special day. Make your mom dinner or just a cake and show her the cake and tell her you love her and you wrote a letter about something very important. Then give her the letter.

You can give her the letter in the dinner-room and go to make coffee and come in with coffee after she read the letter.

Just curious how the best way to do it? Anyone have other suggestions?

[princealbertofb]

Good job joseph

It is a good, expressive letter. I think it is nice and short and has everything you want to express as discussed here.

Are you going to print out the letter and give it to her? Put it in a card?

I had an idea. I know that you like to cook and bake cakes. Maybe make it a special day. Make your mom dinner or just a cake and show her the cake and tell her you love her and you wrote a letter about something very important. Then give her the letter.

You can give her the letter in the dinner-room and go to make coffee and come in with coffee after she read the letter.

Just curious how the best way to do it? Anyone have other suggestions?

I like your suggestion, Frank... I don't know what Joseph thinks... What do you think, Joseph?mile: