Sexual advice

[Adds]

This is my first time here,and I made this account because of this,and if I'm posting in a wrong place,sorry.

I'm a relatively straight guy,with a beautiful girlfriend,but occasionally when I'm alone I suddenly have all these relatively homosexual thoughts.Sometimes,I'll go on pornhub or something and fantasize about some big hairy guy being my daddy and filling me to burst with his sweet seed.

I love my girlfriend to bits,but at the same time I want to experiment with my urges without destroying my commitment.I want something/someone to stretch me open when I feel this way,but at the same time-girlfriend...

I know it's a stupid question,but does anyone have any ideas on how I can control/surpress my urges? I'd be very thankful for any form of advice...

[Wolfpack]

Hi welcome to forum, and Happy Birthday as well

Ok so you have a girlfriend, and I can understand that you have theses 'other' urges, which may suggest that you are starting to discover another part of yourself.

But if you truly love your girlfriend then you have realise that cheating on her would be very wrong.
In other words you cannot have your cake and eat it.

If you want to stay with your girlfriend then you have to accept that. But if you want to pursue these urges, then owe it her and yourself to break up with your girlfriend, leading her on would not be right.

You have to think long and hard what you want in life most of all.

[ChadCoxRox]

Yes. right. Have at it then. Go on. Have a go. Don't be OnLy a wanker. But the most important bit is to remain connected here so you can share all the glorious details with your family!

[ddd]

You have to realize what is behind this desire. Is there an issue in your past that has led to the way you feel?

[Xandes]

How often are these urges? Once a year or once a week? Before I came out of the closet, I was married. I had discussed with her (not that I was gay) but my desires. We ended up trying some toys and that filled my urges for a while. But it was that honesty that led me to eventually see and understand that it was not the act but the entire situation that was wrong. Many straight guys enjoy a toy here and there. But there is a chance that even though you love your girlfriend, she might not be the ideal partner for you. But only with honesty will you eventually come to what is right is for you.

[marshlander]

I too was married and tried for years to suppress my urges. My experience leads me to think that Mother Nature will not be ignored. Eventually I had to come out to myself and eventually to others.

Unless you and your girlfriend have an arrangement to open up the relationship and you agree the rules for how that might work for you both you have a struggle on your hands. This could be phase of curiosity, it could be that you are bisexual and hearing the call from the other side, or you could actually be gay after all. It takes a while for some of us to get to grips with this stuff.

Assuming you want to be able to carry on with a clear conscience it means having some sort of discussion with your girlfriend. I have a friend who tried it and came to the conclusion after a year-long affair with another man without his girlfriend's knowledge that being with a man wasn't for him after all. In contrast I found that being with a man was a total revelation and exactly what suited me.

This is a journey that only you can take. I hope you manage it with the minimum of pain to you and your girlfriend.

[Adds]

Thanks for the advice,guys.I appreciate it.It's nice to know someone understands,but I've come to a conclusion while I couldn't sleep last night.

To be honest I don't think it's a side of me coming out.When I thought about it,it's more of something in my current relationship that bothered me.As you could see from my original post,I really wanted to be a bottom.Every time I watched pornography,it was the bottom's look of pleasure that kinda fueled the passion,and I think,from what I can tell it's not that I wanted to be with a man,it's more that I wanted to be dominated (not necessarily taking it in the behind,but more like doing my girlfriend's bidding/calling her miss ect.)

In all my relationships,I've always been the dominant man. I've always been the master,with the woman calling me sir,and I think my current confusion is my mind telling me that it wants to be dominated by a mistress.It'd be a welcome change,and kind of an adventure,in a way. I'm still a little bit curious about being with a guy (Isn't everyone?) but I'm pretty relieved that I get to remain with my girlfriend,who may just be the one....Only time will tell.

But seriously guys,the comments I got were very helpful.You have no idea how thankful I am to get this support from such kind strangers,and to be honest,I might post every now and again about fantasies and such...I've enjoyed the company

[Charon]

Lets try and come to order and think about this positively. As men, we tend to be pack animals and, as pack animals we tend to hunt for whatever in a group. There are psychological studies that will tell you that guys on a team in a locker room, nude, slapping each other, physically handling each others genitals is a homosexual experience. What I think you may be missing and wanting is that one great male friend, not a wing man, not your best bro, but the guy to whom all things are known and with whom all things are possible. The one who would strip with you and get in bed to see what might happen and could walk away with your friendship in tact. They're hard to find but it's worth the search. And don't be afraid of these "homosexual dreams" you're having; If you think about them, you're the object of attention and affection, some we all want to be. I can't know what the status is of the woman you're with but just possibly it's not as fulfilling as you want it to be. Can you honestly say to her, "Do you ever have homosexual dreams as I do?" My point in that question is to try and unlock both of you to a more sexual ability to communicate.
I cannot go out and tell you to have a gay experience but I can tell you that if the opportunity presents itself and YOU really want to, take the first step and see where it leads. Sometimes that first step is enough to clarify your feelings and present to you the truth about what you really want.

[Jake]

This is my first time here,and I made this account because of this,and if I'm posting in a wrong place,sorry.

I'm a relatively straight guy,with a beautiful girlfriend,but occasionally when I'm alone I suddenly have all these relatively homosexual thoughts.Sometimes,I'll go on pornhub or something and fantasize about some big hairy guy being my daddy and filling me to burst with his sweet seed.

I love my girlfriend to bits,but at the same time I want to experiment with my urges without destroying my commitment.I want something/someone to stretch me open when I feel this way,but at the same time-girlfriend...

I know it's a stupid question,but does anyone have any ideas on how I can control/surpress my urges? I'd be very thankful for any form of advice...

Well if you've been on pornhub there's hundred of videos with guys playing with dildo... buy a dildo and put some hairs on it... that will fashion your bear dick hahaha!