07-08-2014, 06:55 AM
East Wrote:Sometimes people using each other is honest and mutual and way too often people assume sex without a "commitment" is a negative thing.
No, that's fine when both people know that's all that it is (or will be). Hooking up or fwb or whatever is perfectly ok in my book as long as one person isn't thinking there's more to it & the other person knows there isn't yet lets it go on for 6, 12, 18 months only to drop them. "Easy" to DO that when you don't have any feelings involved (or maybe you think "they should've 'known' better").
I guess some people can or will go through all the motions of a relationship (for a long time) but if it's not explicitly stated will "expect" the other person to have "known" they could or would "walk" at any moment w/o warning.
Ironically I always wondered how a break up would be handled (by text, call, in person, talking first, etc.) but thought I would look crazy to ask such a thing. No crazier than turning your back on someone if you ask me.