01-13-2015, 11:24 PM
ZackT Wrote:Therapist/Counselor. Not a psychiatrist. He explained that most of the time these days, psychiatrists don't see the patient for too long, but let a therapist do the talk-therapy part and then the psychiatrist prescribes any medication since they have the Doctorate to do it.
I'll be trying to call up my insurance to get a psychiatrist set up today, if I can remember. Work has been ultra busy and stressful.
And I don't lie about everything to everyone. But, I have lied about so many things for so long to my wife. It's a trust issue for me. I don't trust her not to get upset by whatever it is I'm lying about, so I'm trying to prevent a fight or a problem. And yes it usually backfires eventually, either cause she finds out on her own or because I tell her, but I just keep doing it.
My best friends, who are men, and my ex-girlfriend, I don't lie to them. I don't fear judgment or a harsh negative reaction (although my best best friend did verbally beat me up when I told him I cheated on my wife, he's the reason I let the guilt in and told her). So maybe that's what it is. But even though I don't lie to my friends, it's not like I tell them absolutely everything either. Told them a lot, but some things I keep private even from them.
I can call this one, even without a degree in psychiatry or psychology.
You aren't lying to protect your wife or your kid or your friends.
You are lying to protect yourself from blame or recrimination or consequences. You think you are making up for it by self-blame. It doesn't. It is juvenile behaviour that probably has its roots in how you were treated by parents, grand-parents and other adults in positions of authority who could dole out punishment. You also may have the wiring in your brain that allows you to lie compulsively. Get beyond this and you might yet save your life and not damage others.