12-04-2015, 09:41 PM
One thing to consider is he may have been sexually abused in the past. Something he may not ever want to talk about, so I wouldn't bring it up.
My partner and I, of 7 months, are not sexually active, but we have had plenty of intimacy. Cuddling up and spooning him at night. He's opening up and telling me what his fears are. In the past he has given away sex, and it's ruined his relationships. So, he is of the mindset of cementing our relationship more before going all the way. He was also raped, right around the time I met him, and still has flashbacks about it. So that is another barrier to our sexual activity.
I completely understand where he is coming from, and he understands how sexually frustrated I am. The fact that he is starting to voice what his issues are, is a greater sign of trust and intimacy then if he rolled on his stomach and said go for it.
My partner and I, of 7 months, are not sexually active, but we have had plenty of intimacy. Cuddling up and spooning him at night. He's opening up and telling me what his fears are. In the past he has given away sex, and it's ruined his relationships. So, he is of the mindset of cementing our relationship more before going all the way. He was also raped, right around the time I met him, and still has flashbacks about it. So that is another barrier to our sexual activity.
I completely understand where he is coming from, and he understands how sexually frustrated I am. The fact that he is starting to voice what his issues are, is a greater sign of trust and intimacy then if he rolled on his stomach and said go for it.