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[Mike33nyc]

Hello, I used to be straight, I had girlfriends all my life. For the past few years I have developed a burning desire for gay porn, gay sex, gay men. I am still a gay virgin and I am looking for my first gay experience. I was mostly in denial and I would fight my horny thoughts and hardcore fantasies. But I cannot fight them anymore, I want to meet someone to help me get out of the closet and experience gay sex. Please message me.

[InbetweenDreams]

Hmm... Well if you're solely wanting to experience the sexual aspect... There are "dating" apps like Grindr. However, if you want to take things easy you might look for a local group that meets up so you can meet someone. Of course, this is a good resource too, lots of folks here who have been through the same stuff.

When I say groups, I found one on Facebook, just a group of guys who meet up once a month at a restaurant and mostly a social event, good place to make friends and thus one thing leads to another. If a rural area like where I live has something of the sort I'm sure somewhere in New Jersey has one too.

My advice though, get some dating apps and start talking to people... I say dating apps, but we're guys...we're all horny, a lot of guys are after sex...some just hook up, some NSA or FWB (No strings attached, Friends with Benefits)...and there are people who do ultimately want to get in a long term relationship...lots of acronyms...

[Camfer]

Welcome to the site, Mike! You will get lots of friendly advice from all over the world on how to navigate the gay world. Just post about what you are feeling and what you think you're going to do next.

A while back we had a 'straight' guy from northern NJ who started out closeted and curious. He started going to a gay bondage club in the city every weekend. At first he just watched, then later he made a trusted buddy there, still later he participated in some scenes, safe always.

While doing all that he put Grindr on his phone and waded through the mess that app is to find some hookups and dates. Then he came out to his trusted lesbian Aunt about being into guys and figured out it was no big deal.

A coupe month later he started dating a guy he met on Grindr. That developed quickly, and soon he dropped the bondage club. He and the BF moved in together, they met each other's families, and eventually he dropped off of here.

The whole thing unfolded very quickly and was a great real life story with a happy ending. GS was how he was able to get advice, feedback, and a bit of confidence boosting. So enjoy the site in the way you see best.

Best of luck on your journey!

[LJay]

Welcome, Mike!

Guys here will be glad to give what advice and input they can. Feel free to ask questions.

Whatever you do, play safe. Learn about STDs and health safety. It is the most important thing you can do.

[Insertnamehere]

Use Grindr and other simils. That should do it. Use protection at all times.

[Anocxu]

So the opening poster stated he is curious about gay sex.. he did not state in any context that he was curious about a Gay relationship.
^^^^
(This is what he stated)

According to him he is just looking for gay sexual experiences .. which might mean he could be at bi curious at this moment ..he might feel differently after a few gay sexual experiences.

What I am concerned about is the urgency or "Doomed if I don't " context in which he presented his post.

Personally I do not believe a stagnant sex life or unsatisfied urges should topple or toss a life into disarray.. BUT I can understand if it does.

Sexuality is as complex as the universe ... there is so much to be understood.

Best of luck to you and I hope you'll find the answers you seek.

[meridannight]

Sexuality is as complex as the universe ... there is so much to be understood.

not trying to argue with you, maybe for some people it is like that.

and yet, for me, sexuality was the simplest thing in the world. i just knew. never even had to think about it. it was as clear and obvious, and solid to me as the ground beneath my feet. so it's not true that sexuality is complicated.

i think, what makes it complicated for some, is all the bullshit from the society, parental conditioning/influence, and the person's own psychological makeup that makes such a simple thing -- sexuality -- complicated. if people own up to themselves about who they are, are happy with themselves, and sufficiently self-aware, there is absolutely nothing complicated about sexuality at all.

[Anocxu]

not trying to argue with you, maybe for some people it is like that.

and yet, for me, sexuality was the simplest thing in the world. i just knew. never even had to think about it. it was as clear and obvious, and solid to me as the ground beneath my feet. so it's not true that sexuality is complicated.

i think, what makes it complicated for some, is all the bullshit from the society, parental conditioning/influence, and the person's own psychological makeup that makes such a simple thing -- sexuality -- complicated. if people own up to themselves about who they are, are happy with themselves, and sufficiently self-aware, there is absolutely nothing complicated about sexuality at all.

I was the same.. at six years old I knew..

You did make another valid point.. "Self awareness "

I can honestly say it is a "noble destination" to be truly aware.
I'll also add .. the older you get you'll run into all sorts of characters that are so out of touch with themselves.. to a point where sexuality could get caught up and twisted into all kinds of Dysmorphia.


You have opened my eyes to understand. ."We" complicate sexuality.

Now a question for you..
What about .. (example ) A 50 year old married father with 4 children that says.. "I just discovered I am Gay"

Is he a liar?

Could he have been ( truthfully ) unaware of his true sexuality ..?

What do you think ?

[LJay]

Maybe he just discovered that he wants to flee from his family because he doesn't want to buy birthday presents for ungrateful grandchildren.

[LJay]

And a sort of PS directed toward the OP's lack of comment regarding a relationship: Good for you, dude. There is too much pressure to cast oneself into the imitation-heteronormative mold these days.

Molds are for plum puddings. I know. I just bought one on sale. The mold that is, not the pudding.