Does does sex outside relationship diminish the love between partners

[princealbertofb]

I know I enjoy monogamy and the sense of security it brings (to some extent) but aren't we putting a lot of pressure on ourselves with all these promises of fidelity, none of which we can be sure to keep in the long run? Maybe it's better to re-evaluate from time to time, and see where everyone is standing and what the long term consequences are in case someone needs a bit more freedom to roam. I'd think something in the open would be better than something swept under the carpet.

[Charon]

As you age monogamy becomes very much more important as you learn what respect for your partner and genuine affection are truly about. That said, I grow weary of couples, of any sex or sexes who spend considerable time explaining how much monogamy means to them. Okay, but shut up about it. Monogamy is something you live, not discuss. If one or the other partner isn't living up to it, the word will get around. Monogamy isn't something you agree to, again, it's just something that is. When you give yourself to another, it's implicit or it is to me.

[princealbertofb]

As you age monogamy becomes very much more important as you learn what respect for your partner and genuine affection are truly about. That said, I grow weary of couples, of any sex or sexes who spend considerable time explaining how much monogamy means to them. Okay, but shut up about it. Monogamy is something you live, not discuss. If one or the other partner isn't living up to it, the word will get around. Monogamy isn't something you agree to, again, it's just something that is. When you give yourself to another, it's implicit or it is to me.

It doesn't have to be implicit. It can be something truly stated, in the couple, that is... I don't mean we have to publicise it to the world. It is a private thing, I'll agree with you on that.

[swalter]

Generally speaking, I think sex outside an otherwise monogamous relationship will destroy that relationship. There are some couples who are able to manage a sexually-open relationship, but I think they're the exception, and not the rule.

[freelandia]

There are some couples who are able to manage a sexually-open relationship, but I think they're the exception, and not the rule.

Sex outside of gay marriage has legal and financial consequences. We are, both, in agreement. Also, gone are the days of free sex because of our Christian faith. We take the 7th and 10th Commandmends to heart. "There are some couples who are able to manage a sexually-open relationship, but I think they're the exception, and not the rule". Speak of the devil, have you guys seen House of Cards by Netflix?

[princealbertofb]

House of Cards is awesome! And dark! And sometimes unreal!

[gaycraig]

Depends on the relationship. If the confidence between both partners is good enough, I think an open relationship is even healthier.
I'm scared of belonging to someone.

But it requires maturity...not sure I would be able right now.

Absolutely correct my friend, it is very healthy to have sex with new people it is part of your natural stimulations on this planet along with musical frequencies etc. I would like to find someone where we love each other but we enjoy others as well even if it is just in threesomes in our bedroom. I believe it can spice up your love life and its probably very horny to watch your man enjoy another man.

[Mark]

Absolutely correct my friend, it is very healthy to have sex with new people it is part of your natural stimulations on this planet along with musical frequencies etc. I would like to find someone where we love each other but we enjoy others as well even if it is just in threesomes in our bedroom. I believe it can spice up your love life and its probably very horny to watch your man enjoy another man.

You actually intrigue me to some degree Craig - its not a bad thing just you seemed to have 360'ed from the whole like 'straight' life and gone fully into this especially with the threesome thing as you mentioned only guys which in some ways I guess surprises me. I think I'd like to hear more from you haha Sorry if that sounds really weird just yeah its cool